Total K.O.

[Airbag]

Hey everyone,

 

I thought I was doing great, until today...

 

My ex-girlfriend broke up with me about 2 months ago. She told me we could still be friends, I declined and went NC straight away. I did have contact with her twice, mostly about money she still owed me. She initiated contact in both cases. Last wednesday, she initiated contact again. She started off by saying she was going to send me the money this weekend, and quickly changed the subject. She asked me if I was seeing anyone. I didn't really answer her question, because I felt it was really non of her business anymore. She kept asking so I eventually said "maybe". After that we had some small talk. It was a great conversation overall, especially since we don't speak to eachother very often. Today I found out she's going on a date with somebody. It hit me like a rock. I'm not saying I was hopiong for reconcilation, but I thought we were on the right track. I feel so damn * * * * ty right now. I'm already taking antidepressants but it seems like a never ending proces! HELP!

[DerekJason]

damn man, you were doing great too! maybe you should have said yes you were seeing someone? idk this crap is confusing. i never got a single crumb after BU so i wouldnt even know. i would suggest at least go out and look at girls tonight.

[Airbag]

Thanks for replying Derek. I have no idea what to do. I just went over to my parents and talked to them about it, since they are really supporting me. I really don't know if she's into this guy or she's just trying to get over me. Should I ask her to meet up with me? Or do you think this might be even more painful. Thanks.

[camus154]

This is why NC exists.

 

Forget about the money. Is the money worth what you're feeling right now?

[DerekJason]

MORE PAIN if you do that, imho. do you have any close female friends? go out with them tonight, have a drink, and dont bring up your pain at all. this has helped me a few times since. stay out late. dont go to the movies. go to a bar, have a drink, if you dont drink, have a water and laugh at the drunkards. i know ill be having some jameson tonight, as its friday. i think in your case, it IS more painful because there is some form of contact. in my case, its been 11 weeks since BU, and NOT ONCE has she initiated contact. makes me think what we had was nothing for 2.5 yrs.

[DerekJason]

at this point in the game, im ALMOST glad i havent gotten any crumbs, im both thankful and upset about it, but the thankful is starting to outweigh the upset. not by much mind you, but if i had to put a percentage on it, itd be 53/47 thankful/upset. my point is, dont sit home alone tonight.

[Stand Strong]

This type of thing is apart of life. Like paying bills. You'll break hearts yours will be broken. It's a never ending cycle [until you decide to get married or stay single]. In the end, you'll be fine. It's better to embrace the feelings of hurt and let them be there. Trying to stuff them away is only going to hurt more.

[DerekJason]

It's better to embrace the feelings of hurt and let them be there. Trying to stuff them away is only going to hurt more.

 

agreed. to the max.

[Airbag]

Thanks for the replies guys, really appreciate it. I'm gonna go back NC and focus on myself for the next months. Talk to you guys soon!

[jjcool00]

She could just be blowing smoke up ur a$$ to gauge your reaction. Some "dumpers" will say anything to get you to initiate contact again or show how you truly feel when emotions override logic. IF she contacts you again don't show her that it bothers you, wish her luck on her date. You're 22, hit some bars and talk to women even if you have zero interest in dating them it's nice to just talk to members of the opposite sex when you're feeling like this.