Applewhite Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 So I had a friend - I thought we were very close. We've been friends for over a year maybe two? We both have busy schedules so we meet about once a month or so and have long chats. We recently signed up for a bartending class (I signed up because she did) although we couldn't arrange our schedules to take it at the same time. I did join her for 1 class (where she knew all the people and I only knew her) and she was a little cold to me that day. She barely even said hello or acknowledged me when I first walked in, later on said hello etc but something was awkward. She just treated me very weird that day and in the following days kind of ignored my messages and didn't return calls etc. When I asked why she is so busy for me she wrote me this: "The truth is I AM very busy, but besides that I don't feel comfortable with you. Whenever we talk about anything, you always disagree with me. I feel like I have to think twice or three times before I say something! I just don't feel like this friendship is gonna work out. I am sorry if I ignored you, but it is difficult to actually say negative things about someone." I seriously have no idea what she is referring to. (And I've never been told this before so if it's true I'd really like to know). My first instinct was to write: My perspective was that on the contrary we have so much in common and agree on almost everything! but I realized I would be disagreeing with her so I stopped LOL. I told her she can tell me and please do, maybe we can fix this etc. and asked what I had disagreed with could she give me an example so I can understand it better. I have a feeling she might not answer as her message sounded so final. I'm completely baffled. I've been trying to brainstorm what I could have disagreed with since I last saw her (which seemed to go fine). One thing I could find on our FB chats is this: when talking about finding bartending jobs she told me that she was only looking for a Friday night or weekend shift. I told her that was going to be tough and good luck. I don't remember if I explained why so maybe she took it personal if I didn't explain? I am not even sure if this counts as 'disagreeing' with someone. The only other incident I can think of was several months ago when she asked me a favor and I had to decline because of personal issues - again not exactly disagreeing... Any ideas? Link to comment
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