Mustang Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 I spoke to a friend of mine last night and he said that he saw my ex at a party a few weeks ago. He said he thinks she's really cut up about our break up and told me "I don't think that she thinks of little you as you think". Now, weirdly, this made me feel a lot better. Knowing that she is human I guess and is sad about things kind of makes it a lot easier on me. The worst part about NC is thinking she's out having a great time and not caring about the break up whatsoever. More importantly, I've realised now why remaining in contact with the dumper about a break up should NOT be done. The reason being, if they know you're hurting, they won't miss you. They will feel better. Just like how I feel better for hearing that she's been upset. I think the whole "let them miss you" thing is really important in any reconciliation. I still miss my ex but I realise that my future doesn't involve her. I just thought I'd share the story for those that have a chance. I'm sure that YOUR ex does miss you and is sad about the break up. Sometimes that's not always enough but if you can find comfort in it, great. It's better than driving yourself mad by thinking they don't care at all. Link to comment
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