What is she playing at, is it all breaking down!

[shiloh kid]

Hi everyone, i have being going out with this girl for just over a year now but we were good freinds before we decided to become more so have known eachother for a few years. Anyway about 3 months ago she started to work 6 days a week doing 3 summer jobs and she started to ignore texts but we still saw eachother about once a week. During that time it was me that initiated the texting almost all the time. Now that she has stopped working things havent gone back to the way they were before where we would text eachother every other day and flirt. Now she rarely returns my texts and mostly only text me when she wants to meet up. When we meet up we flirt and things are as they have always been although we keep going for coffee and doing pretty much the same thing every week. We still hold hands and kiss and things like that but havent had sex, im nearly 21 and still a virgan and she is 21 and isn't When i try to make other plans like going to a flat party to meet my some of my friends that she still hasnt met or going away for the weekend together she comes up with some lame excuse not to go. We also dont seem to be connecting like we used to and almost running out of things to say and she mentions one of the guys at her current weekend job a bit but refers to him as her brother. Is all this normal after this amount of time together? Im just wondering what i should do to try to fix things and make them go back to the way that they were any ideas? Any date ideas? I really love her and dont want to end up loosing her but i feel like we are slowly drifting appart. when i have spoken to her about the lack of texts and the way she seems to be drifting away she says that thats just the sort of person that she is and that she likes haveing time to her self. I asked her if she was wanting to break up or wanst interested in me anymore and she said that she was and didnt want to end it. Please help i honestly dont have any idea what to do????

[hexaemeron]

Welcome to the end of the honeymoon period.

[shiloh kid]

does this mean that all this is normal?

[hexaemeron]

does this mean that all this is normal?

 

Most likely. I mean, did you expect it to always feel new and wonderful forever?

[Stay_home]

When i have spoken to her about the lack of texts and the way she seems to be drifting away she says that thats just the sort of person that she is and that she likes haveing time to her self.

 

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Sorry I had to do that to you, but it is.

 

Part of being in a relationship is making time for your significant other. There's nothing wrong with wanting to have time for yourself, but she also has to realize that she is in a committed relationship and has the responsibility of being a part of that. Everybody that says they want a relationship don't really mean that and then sometimes their priorities change. Well the God honest truth is that when you get into an exclusive relationship its not all about you anymore. Some people have a hard time accepting having to sacrifice for anyone other than themselves.

[shiloh kid]

I didn't expect it to feel new for ever but i did think we would both always be making an effort to talk and still send sweet or flirty text messages and letting eachother know that we cared. 2 sided coin i understand what you mean sometimes you have to make sacrifices for eachother and if you truly love someone then you will make the effort no matter what. I have no idea what to think or do about this anymore????

[shiloh kid]

Ok, i'm seeing her tonight and really need some advice, what should i say to her about it? i suck at this sort of thing so anything whould be usefull. Thanks ;-)