Why do i let guys use me and why do they treat me so badly. am i asking for it?

[cn86]

i was out on thursday night and was talking to this guy who is a friend of my friend i'll call him dave. he was a bit drunk and dave basically called me a (we didn't have an argument or anything). i cant think of any reason why he would call me this. i did sleep with a friend of his once but that is still no reason to call me those names. my friend 'alan' thinks i am over reacting and said they are only words and its up to me to prove him wrong and if i continue to cut people out of my life i'll end up on my own. I was talking to daves friends one nite and one of them said something like 'I probably wont know you next time I see you' and he said something like 'oh you will you’ll recognise her nose'. he cant say things like that to anyone he doesnt know how it will affect them. im not the most confident person and its people like him that have me the way i am. thats why im so angry with all this. he'll never get the chance to insult me again he has insulted me more than once. he thinks im not loyal to anyone and the reason he has a problem with me is because he was messed around with a girl and because i remind him of her he and thinks i am going to do the same to his friends. would you forgive him if you were in my position??

[cn86]

the friend of the guy mentioned above has also caused me some grief too. i have known this guy for a few months now but im still really confused as to whether he likes me or not. we have mutual friends in common that's how we met on nights out. he's a 25 year old policeman. when ever im out especially at the beginning of the night he just stands around chatting to his friends and turns his back to me. but i have often caught him looking over his shoulder at me. we were drunk the 1st time we met. i was sitting down chatting to his friend and he sat right beside me even though there was barely enough room for him to sit there. we ended up kissing and afterwards he asked me for my number he has text me a few times asking me when is he 'going to get another kiss' or to go for a drive with him. he added me on facebook too and we have chatted on that a few times (he removed me a few months ago and stopped answering my text messages too and a few weeks later he re-added me). also when we are out he texts me something like 'having a good night' or 'not talking' even though we are in the same room or sitting accross from each other. ive noticed he does that a lot whenever i am talking to one of his guy friends. he seems to approach me a bit more when he gets drunk. we did sleep together 4 months ago but we haven't kissed or done anything since because i haven't really seen him around on nights out and he works outside town. we spoke again on facebook a few days ago and he asked me again if i wanted to go for a drive. but i declined and said it was too late. i bumped into him again on sunday night 2 weeks ago and he ignored (he seemed to be chatting up a girl) me again even though i was sitting behind him but i was out with my other friends i sent him a text message while i was sitting behind him saying hi and about 2 hours later i got a message back saying 'sorry i didn't see you'. i get messages from him like 'where are you now im horny', 'i'd love to you again' and he called me 'hot and tight'. he seems a bit childish. im so sick of this ignoring game he seems to play with me every time he sees me. i was out on another night out and bumped into him again. i just looked at him and walked by i never bothered to stop and talk. i sent him an angry text message when i left the nightclub and this time he responded back. he said he 'regretted falling out' with me and told me it was over his friend (who is also my friend and he likes me a lot). why would he fall out with me over his friend? it makes no sense he just said 'it was too weird' for him. he can talk to everyone else no problem it just seems to be me that's the problem. he sends me messages asking me am i 'up for a drive' and asking me up to his place which is located outside town for a night. he friends seem to tease him when im around and they keep telling me if he will be out that night. he was really nasty with me earlier on facebook just because i sent him a few text messages last night. he never even bothered to respond to any of them. he said he didnt want to have anything to do with me anymore and when i suggested we stop talking when we see each other he said 'sounds good' and he also said 'i dont want anything to happen with us again basically blunt but true'. im really hurt over it. a few days ago he deleted me from his facebook account yet again but this time he blocked me. what have i done to deserve all this?

[camus154]

im not the most confident person and its people like him that have me the way i am.

 

No, YOU are the one who has you the way you are.

 

At any rate, I don't think anyone here can tell you what you should do with your friendship. You haven't really given much explanation, and the above doesn't make much sense.

[cn86]

the 2nd post is about the guy who i was with. he is the friend of the guy who insulted me.

[abitbroken]

Stop hanging around drunk people. Don't try to prove yourself to anyone. Make some new friends. Go out and volunteer, take a class, whatever you can to meet new groups of people that have a little more class.

[capilot]

It's not you, it's him. He hates women.

 

Don't let him be part of your life; he's poison.