sandy cheeks Posted September 14, 2011 Share Posted September 14, 2011 I couldn't find any other forum this belonged in, so I'm hoping that someone here has had experience with this issue and can offer advice. My 11 year old son has been expressing unhappiness with the current custody agreement. He says he wants to live with me and only visit his father "every once and a while". When I asked for reasons why he felt this way he said things like; his dad gets angry with him allot, he doesn't get to see his friends when he's at his fathers, and that he "just loves (me) more". I can think of many possible reasons he's feeling this way; his father just moved into a new house with his girlfriend and two kids, they moved out of the school district away from his friends, and his father is getting married in November. Maybe he feels insecure with all the changes surrounding his dad? And possibly it's just a phase little boys go through, getting attached to their moms? While I would love to say "sure!!! come stay with me all the time." I know it’s not that simple. But it breaks my heart to know that he's unhappy over there. I've told him to wait (don't say anything to his father about wanting to live with me!!) and see if he still feels this way in a few months. I explained that maybe he just feels this way because of all the changes going on? And that maybe all these changes are making daddy a little stressed and crabby too. I don't know?? I'm worried that there's more to it than he's letting on. This kid use to idolize his dad! But I don't want to pursue legal action if it's just a passing thing. It would be nice if we (his dad and I) could sit down and work out something temporary to see if it helps, but I'm sure his dad will take his son's unhappiness as a personal attach, and blame me for it somehow, and then lay a guilt trip on our son, etc., etc., etc. Has anyone had experience with this sort of situation? Advice please? p.s.- I don't think this is a case of playing one parent over the other. "Daddy won't let me do this so I'll go live with mommy" First of all, I'm the stricter parent, and second of all my ex has all the money and spoils him constantly. Link to comment
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