RitaTrue Posted September 14, 2011 Share Posted September 14, 2011 What things make you lose physical attraction for your SO? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Capricorn3 Posted September 14, 2011 Share Posted September 14, 2011 If they become a slob, don't take care of themselves and lack of personal hygiene, as in shower once/twice a week and never brush their teeth. YUCK. Thankfully I have never ever had that experience, but it's surprising how many people don't shower or brush their teeth daily. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SicFounder Posted September 14, 2011 Share Posted September 14, 2011 a new hairstyle. Odds are if I'm dating them, hair was about 8/10 of the package deal. At least let me know what hairstyle you're planning on getting so I can give you fair and reasonable judgment before I cry myself to sleep because it looks like I'm dating Kate Gosselin. Assuming that's the route they take. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sambuca Posted September 14, 2011 Share Posted September 14, 2011 For me, physical attraction is tied up with an interesting personality, intelligence and success. If I find a guy interesting and smart and successful, then I'll feel physically attracted to him. But as time passes and I realize he's not as smart as I thought, his career isn't progressing, and he's actually quite a bore, then I lose physical attraction. In other words, if he fails to live up to my expectations I lose my attraction to him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snowy Posted September 14, 2011 Share Posted September 14, 2011 Disrespect. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RitaTrue Posted September 14, 2011 Author Share Posted September 14, 2011 a new hairstyle. Odds are if I'm dating them, hair was about 8/10 of the package deal. At least let me know what hairstyle you're planning on getting so I can give you fair and reasonable judgment before I cry myself to sleep because it looks like I'm dating Kate Gosselin. Assuming that's the route they take. You sound like my ex. My hair was one of the reasons he was attracted to me. He literally told me, "Your hair makes you pretty." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ApocalypseDreams Posted September 14, 2011 Share Posted September 14, 2011 For me, physical attraction is tied up with an interesting personality, intelligence and success. If I find a guy interesting and smart and successful, then I'll feel physically attracted to him. But as time passes and I realize he's not as smart as I thought, his career isn't progressing, and he's actually quite a bore, then I lose physical attraction. In other words, if he fails to live up to my expectations I lose my attraction to him. This! The initial stages of a relationship is based mostly off physical attraction but as the relationship progresses it becomes more about who that person is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ApocalypseDreams Posted September 14, 2011 Share Posted September 14, 2011 You sound like my ex. My hair was one of the reasons he was attracted to me. He literally told me, "Your hair makes you pretty." I rate hair quite highly too. Nice, healthy hair that's styled well can do wonders for a girls physical attractiveness imo. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RitaTrue Posted September 16, 2011 Author Share Posted September 16, 2011 I rate hair quite highly too. Nice, healthy hair that's styled well can do wonders for a girls physical attractiveness imo. How close to leaving the relationship would you be, if she cut her hair? Not trim. Cut. Say......half of her hair off. At least. ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ApocalypseDreams Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 How close to leaving the relationship would you be, if she cut her hair? Not trim. Cut. Say......half of her hair off. At least. ? Honestly? I guess it would depend largely on how long we'd be dating for. If she drastically changed her appearance in the first month or two of dating it would be perhaps a larger issue than it would later in the relationship. As shallow as it sounds, more focus is on physical attraction initially. Once the relationship became more established and I started to warm up to her emotionally it wouldn't bother me too much unless she did something really unattractive with it, like grow a mullet or something. Hair can be pretty sexy but it is a pretty negoitiable thing to me. Her hair will grow back and no doubt go through various styles so it isn't a static thing that will never change. It would be shallow for me to leave the relationship over something like that. Does this relate to a break up you've had Ritatrue? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lalalollipops Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 Not in any particular order: Clinginess (I need space to breathe) Lack of a brain (I go for guys who are well read and smart) Guys who have issues with personal hygiene (eek) Arrogance Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
imsuperman Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 I agree that hair is a big thing for me too. I hate when women hack off their hair or dye it for no reason. It was fine the way it was! How they act can sometimes change my physical attraction. If they rely solely on the jealousy game to pressure me into making a move, I become confused by their mixed messages. You can initiate with every other guy except me? NOT attractive. It just makes you look like a snob. If you want to hang out, just say, "Wanna come?" I'll say yes, and we'll see what happens. We're not getting married that night or anything. Wanting me to be you "rebound guy" or your "make my ex jealous so he'll see how hot I am" guy. NOT attractive either! As much as I hate to say it, rapid and noticeable weight gain. Not shampooing hair before you start the day. Even if you were out late, I'm not interested in seeing your "just out of bed" look unless we were just in bed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
breath.o.fresh.air Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 In no particular order: insecurity/jealousy. I have alot of male friends, and anyone I date needs to be OK with that. Yes, I'll introduce them, but they're my friends and not going anywhere. Plus it comes accross as a lack of trust. Lack of intelligence. lack of personal maintenance - this can include anything from never exercising to super greasy hair to yellow teeth. smokers - I can't stand the smell of cigarette smoke, nevermind tasting it. Arrogance. No matter how amazing a guy is, if they're arrogant to the point of indifference/rudeness, we're done. not adventurous. I'm outgoing and spontaneous to the point that i've gone on an overnight trip on an hour's notice with friends before. Anyone I date has to be able to be flexible about this, or similarly inclined. Travel, new food, new music, new anything fascinates me - while routine bores me (within reason). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ut804 Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 -My ex gained 40 lbs in the 4 years we dated. it did make me lose some physical attraction. and because of it he would also sweat a lot. -Also, farting and burping. Just gross. - Dressing like a slob. No matter how long I date a guy, whether it be 4 days or 4 years, ALWAYS look good. Don't ever feel "comfortable" enough to start farting in front of me and acting like a slob. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BritterSweet Posted September 17, 2011 Share Posted September 17, 2011 O_O Wow, hair is that important? Good thing I haven't been dating anyone last week when I donated my hair... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RitaTrue Posted September 17, 2011 Author Share Posted September 17, 2011 O_O Wow, hair is that important? I know O__O Im surprised too, honestly. Honestly? I guess it would depend largely on how long we'd be dating for. If she drastically changed her appearance in the first month or two of dating it would be perhaps a larger issue than it would later in the relationship. As shallow as it sounds, more focus is on physical attraction initially. Once the relationship became more established and I started to warm up to her emotionally it wouldn't bother me too much unless she did something really unattractive with it, like grow a mullet or something. Hair can be pretty sexy but it is a pretty negoitiable thing to me. Her hair will grow back and no doubt go through various styles so it isn't a static thing that will never change. It would be shallow for me to leave the relationship over something like that. Does this relate to a break up you've had Ritatrue? No. I kept my hair the same length. But I do know that my ex had a big thing for hair. Before he told me about his "preference" for longer hair, I told him I was playing around with the idea of cutting it. He freaked out! And kept repeating how he liked it the way it was, and that I shouldnt cut it. If we'd actually gotten married this December, like we originally planned, and I cut my hair after the wedding, at any time, I know he'd lose attraction and likely cheat. I'm glad I'm not with him now. Thats too.....superficial. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
motley802 Posted September 17, 2011 Share Posted September 17, 2011 I dont care about hair that much though. But arrogance makes me lose any sort of attraction. I like humble and honest people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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