Amanda Dobson Posted September 14, 2011 Share Posted September 14, 2011 Hi there, Okay firstly, this all happened 6 days ago. I met a man a couple of months ago, everything was perfect. We connected completely on all areas, just perfectly. Everything went so well that he asked me to meet his son and stay over (his little boy lives with him) and I have spent quite a few nights over there and his little boy never wants me to leave, always asks when I am going back again etc. He told me he loved me, that I was the most amazing person he ever met, that he couldn't believe he met someone he could connect with like this. I felt the same, it was amazing. I got a little freaked out last week and I misunderstood something he said to me on the phone. He said to as I heard it 'You are the most amazing person I have ever met, I can see you in my life and my kids life a very long time, I can think of noone better to be in my kids life......I am feeling messy, overwhelmed'. My icks kicked in and I asked him if he needed a break, he replied yes. He claims later that he did not say this, very solidly, he said he called as he was reassuring me as I thought he was pulling back. I told him i would change my facebook status back to single and for him to let me know what he wanted (via text). I then went out and had a few drinks with friends, red wine is awful for me and he sent a text saying 'I am sorry you seem to be hurt, I love and care for you very much'. I got quite nasty, telling him I deserved better than to be pulled away from and that we were done (alcohol and insecurity talking). The next day he told me he couldn't excuse my behaviour and that it was over. He was very cold and robotic like about it, there was nothing but cold hardness in his voice. I sent him flowers, saying 'I love you, life will not be as fun, warm or beautiful without you in it, I hope you can see the beauty in us and come back to me'. He text messaged to thank me for the flowers on Saturday saying 'I got he flowers, Thank You! They are very nice'. I then did the worst thing possible and tried texting him on Sunday, eventually him replying telling me it was over, that he was not my guy, that he could not get over my behaviour. I made things worse, I have emailed him for a few days, trying to get him to see that we were amazing, how stupid it is to end things over a misunderstanding and some drunken texts that really, he was over reacting about and making a mountain out of a molehill. He hasn't replied needless to say and I stopped yesterday afternoon, realising I was pushing him away further. I am kicking myself that I have ruined things with the most amazing man I have ever met, we were just so perfectly matched in every way (he hadn't dated in over 4 years, I hadn't in 3.5 thats how picky we both are). Have I totally ruined everything? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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