My male supervisor was making fun of me.. what's his problem

[Reflective]

I kind of have a crush on this guy at work. He's a supervisor but he's only 4 years older than me. Today I found out he was promoted up. He randomly told me, he didn't have to. I went to his desk to see what else I could do, and he tells me "so I'm leaving" and we continued and he said "I won't be working here after Friday" I said "why?" "because I don't want to work with you." I made a face kind of sadened, and he said "I'm kidding. I'm going to work up at the management office. But ill come down and visit you." I smiled and congratulated him.

 

I went to my desk and chatted with my friend, he came by and started playing with my iPod. he asked "is this new?" I said "ya" and than he opened my iPod without my permission. and than before I left I asked my friend to leave early,he started making references to my love for knitting, because my friend said i was going to be homeless. He said "yeah you're going to be making a living off of knitting." and he smiled. They were both making fun of me. Was that rude of him? And than when me and my friend were about to leave I saw him slowly come out of the supervisor room to where we were, and I accidentally scratched him and he said "hey i missed the call because of you." and he smiled. I mean why was he making fun of me? He makes fun of me for being short too. I asked him where he got his watch from he said "it's a 10,000 watch." and I said "Ooooh! 10,000 watch!"

[BellaDonna]

It sounds like his attempt to flirt with you.

[In the Dark]

Mentioning that he is going to leave sounds like a way to gauge as to whether you would react and say something to keep in touch.

But I guess you are not showing any signs in that respect.

 

I don't understand the teasing banter though.

[Realitynut]

Geez...does this old Lady have to spell it out for ya?

 

Teasing Banter=guys equivilant of flirting!!!!

 

Everything he said, and I MEAN EVERYTHING, including being short, was his way of joking with you without coming on to strong. He's feeling you out (uh...not literally) to see if you reciprocate his feelings! He may have a crush on YOU, or he may just be joking around with you because he knows you have a crush on him!

You gotta get over being so sensitive thinking they are being rude. They are SMILING!!! Think to yourself....would there be any reason for him to be rude to you! NO! He's making a point to tell you he's being promoted. He's making a point to come out of his room to see you as you leave. He's making a point to try to be HUMOROUS. Now take the joke, like the watch, and laugh! So you are short....hey....tell him in your family you're normal, HE"S Tall!

 

Guys like teasing and banter. Grin and return the tease!!!

[Oneironaut]

If this was flirting, it was very, very bad flirting, lol...it would have turned me off entirely.

[Realitynut]

Yes, immature...but is he in his early 20's? Different if he was in his 30's or 40's. I don't mind teasing myself...just don't say anything about me being faT!!! That's just plain mean. If you truly are hurt, just say seriously, hey, don't make fun of my knitting (or whatever) and just see what he says. Be open. But don't take it as him being rude....he's smiling for pete's sake. Believe me...he's flirting...I know!!! I've been around the block about 50 times!!!

[thejigsup]

Sounds like he's just having a little fun...at your expense. You can do better than this guy.

[guynextdoor]

Ok I've read several of your past posts and its about the same thing. The dude constantly gives you crap so why in the world would you want to show interests in this guy? If he treats you like this in a professional environment I hate to see how he treats you outside of work. C'mon you can do better than this really. He acts like he is a teenager.

[lalalollipops]

I know aye ^ and he's a supervisor... You would think he was mature enough to keep things professional at the work place.

[Reflective]

Yes, immature...but is he in his early 20's? Different if he was in his 30's or 40's. I don't mind teasing myself...just don't say anything about me being faT!!! That's just plain mean. If you truly are hurt, just say seriously, hey, don't make fun of my knitting (or whatever) and just see what he says. Be open. But don't take it as him being rude....he's smiling for pete's sake. Believe me...he's flirting...I know!!! I've been around the block about 50 times!!!

he's fresh out of university so he's around 21 years old. Yeah maybe he was joking.

But when he told me i smiled and was really excited for him. When i smiled and said "Oh wow that's great! Are you excited I'm so happy for you." He gave me the biggest smile it was like a little boy smiling. I am really happy for him even though I won't see him around much, I'm proud and genuinely happy that he is happy.

 

but tbh I don't normally get the banter. in the moment It doesn't bother me just afterwards

[Realitynut]

If you don't 'get' his sense of humor, you might not be 'compatable' that way. Sense of humor and laughing at each others jokes is a big part of a relationship, at least for me. My sis wasn't attracted to her husband physically at first, at least for the first few dates. She said what attracted her was his sense of humor, which to me is very condensending...and mean towards me....at least that's how I see it...but she loves him.

 

If you start 'seeing' him, and even dating, you might sometime say to him (if he hurts your feelings in jest), "i know you're teasing me, but I'm quite senstitive, and that hurts my feelings". Honesty.

 

He's still young. I had a neighbor who we both had crushes on each other, but when we were thirteen the only thing he could think of doing was push me in the snow bank, or something equally obnoxious!

[Realitynut]

He acts like he is a teenager.

Emotionally and mentally he just may well be...since he's just out of his teens by a couple of years

[nutbrownhare]

I agree with Realitynut. The banter is part of flirting with you, but it doesn't necessarily mean he's going to do anything about it. It also sounds as though you aren't on the same wavelength humour-wise, and this is likely to leave you wondering what he means by things which, in reality, are just silly throwaway remarks.

 

I personally love banter, and enjoy people of both sexes who can indulge in it. However, it takes experience to spot which people are likely to be receptive, rather than just confused and put out, and it doesn't sound as though this guy's got there yet.

 

My advice to you is to go with the flow, and definitely DON'T over analyse and over think things he's said to you, which are far more likely to be in fun and to raise a laugh than statements of intent. In other words, stop taking this seriously - he probably doesn't mean it that way!