DJP Posted September 14, 2011 Share Posted September 14, 2011 Here's my story, it's kind of long: I'm 28, gonna be 29 on Saturday; never had a real boyfriend before, never done anything physical due to poor self esteem and confidence and not meeting anyone interesting. At the end of March I met a guy through one of my girl friends; he is 29. We became friends on Facebook and he would talk to me every day on there or text me, sometimes both. It turned out we had a lot of common interests, and we went out five times just the two of us. Then I went to another city 1200 miles away; I was there for five weeks. I have had a very rocky last year or so; I was supposed to have a job in this other city but it fell through, and also I had been battling depression, and then the job loss and moving out of my apartment and basically my whole world turned upside down. I told him all of this and he knew I was leaving. I was away for five weeks, though we continued to chat on Facebook nearly every day for an hour or two. I finally got him to admit he liked me and I liked him and we talked about being boyfriend-girlfriend. I came home a couple weeks later and decided to get my life back, and we agreed to get together when I got back, only it never happened; he got busy with his work and now I can't get him to talk to me on FB anymore or text or call me at all. He says he is really shy around women he likes, and I'm pretty shy myself. He has had a couple of girlfriends in the past that I know of, one cheated on him after he went to Florida with her and the other was mean to him. Some of our conversations did get pretty personal; I told him I'm a virgin, which he was ok with, and I told him he made me feel better about myself and all the other crap that had happened. I told him I'm independent and I told him how all these guys kept hitting on me while I was gone and my other friend who started throwing himself at me when I got back. I probably shouldn't have said all that. I have seen him twice now since coming back, but then we weren't alone. He seemed pretty happy to see me; I brought him a gift from where I went and he liked it. I worry that he likes somebody else but I don't think he's the type to do such a thing without saying something. But it's like we just moved back into friend-zone. And I'm currently unemployed and living with my mother. I can understand why he would be afraid. But I really like him and I want to take it to the next level with the physical affection. Next time I see him I'm going to try to touch him and see how he reacts. What else can I do? Besides just being patient? Link to comment
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