RitaTrue Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 Why do dumpers give breadcrumbs after the break up? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DerekJason Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 to keep their options open is my guess, the strong ones leave zero crumbs, as in my case. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seraphim Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 So you won't be as mad at them. It makes them feel better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sada88 Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 I talked to my best friend, who was a dumper who wants to get back together with his ex, and according to him it is so they can do some scouting. If the dumpee is receptive or cold, they can make their next move in relation to the dumpee's reply. It is like they are back to the courting period and trying to get a read again. Most people rarely go in with guns blazing and willing to lay their pride along the lines. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mustachio Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 I agree with everything that has been said so far, but heres another possibility. They too are not completely over the relationship. Although they seem cold, and they were the one that ended it, they too have moments where there are regrets. Sometimes I believe they dont even realize they are dropping these breadcrumbs at first, but then the realization hits them and realize again why they ended it and back off. Either that or they are just evil and dont care about your/our feelings. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ApocalypseDreams Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 Either because they genuinely believe it will help you get over it rather than hinder or they give bread crumbs as a way of manipulating and controlling you whenever they want the power, attention or ego boost. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carus Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 Google 'Triangulating'... 8-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
italiannmf24 Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 Post break-up "bread crumbs" are used by dumper to reassure that the dumpee is still on the sidelines. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LIzardKing Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 For selfish reasons!! Chris Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RitaTrue Posted September 13, 2011 Author Share Posted September 13, 2011 Google 'Triangulating'... 8-) I did. The closest thing I got for triangulating in relationships, is that when two people are fighting, one person will bring a third person in to defend them, or block the attacks in some way. I'm not sure if this is what you mean though. Call me oblivious, but can you just explain what you mean in black and white? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
donpeel83 Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 I think agreeing with alot of what has already been said. Breadcrumbs are given, in my view, when the dumper is trying to work out if the grass is greener and probably is also born out of their fear of being alone/making the wrong choice. Its also an ego boost for them. If they venture out their as a singleton and get zero attention, then they can dial up their ex and get a shot to the ego knowing that someone wants them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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