NeverGoingBack Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 I think I need a bit of advice on the following if you don't mind... So I went out with this amazingly hot girl. Here's the story: I knew her when we were like 15/16 and we had our first sexual experiences together. Hadn't seen her in 12 years and in the meantime I've had a ten year relationship and she is now a single mother living alone with a kid. So we got in touch on Facebook. She left messages under some of my pics like "I love this pic of you XXX" etc etc. So we got chatting, and then on the phone for hours in the middle of the night. We said that we'd meet up for a chat and to catch up (she was the first to ask to meet up). I left it a few weeks because I really wasn't ready for whatever was coming - I didn't want to go out because I was really down about the ten year relationship ending, and it just wasn't a good time for me. One night she called me at about midnight and asked what had happened to our coffee meet up and I said that I'm heading away for a week but that we'd definitely go out when I got back. She said let's forget about coffee and go out for a few drinks. So I went away on a trip for a week with friends and came back and called her and we arranged a night. We went out. It was a great night. We chatted over drinks for hours and hours and stayed out until every place in the city closed. She said that we should definitely stay in contact from now on and I agreed. We shared a taxi home. When we got into the taxi we were asking the driver if there was anywhere else open that served drinks late and he said "No". So the plan was to drop her off at her apartment and then I'd get the taxi home to my place. On the way, she was really drunk and started talking to the taxi driver and me about all sorts of things including her one year old son. She was fairly hammered, as was I. Somehow we ended up "cosy" together with my hand on her leg (and what a leg it is). We were kind of relaxed into each other if you know what I mean. I said to her that we should polish off a few bottles of wine in hers (she had mentioned earlier that she had wine in her place) and when the taxi pulled up she said that she wouldn't feel comfortable to do anything with me on our "first date", whatever that meant. Now, I think this was the drink talking, because I didn't realize we were on a "date" necessarily. From my perspective, it was just old friends catching up after a long time apart. But she presumably saw it as a date. And I'm perfectly happy for it to be a date. She asked me getting out of the taxi if I was pissed off and I was kind of embarrassed in front of the taxi driver... and told her that I had no reason to be pissed off and that she has the wrong idea. I think she thought that I wanted to bring her up to her apartment and give her a seeing to. Now, I would have done that, no problem, but it genuinely wasn't my intention at the time. I can be confident, but not that confident that I'd think she's going to sleep with me when I haven't seen her in so long. She kissed me goodnight and got out and went into her apartment. I went home, but texted her on the way and said that I think she got the wrong end of the stick and that I wasn't trying for more - I simply thought we could drink more, as that was what we were both looking for... The baby wasn't in her place, it was in her mothers, so I didn't see what the big deal was... I told her that I would have got a taxi home... She called me back at about 5am and said that it's okay and that I should come down to her tomorrow... I said that I would cook her that meal that we were talking about... The next day, I didn't call or text because I thought that her asking me down to her place the following day was just the drink talking, and I wanted her to contact me... We texted each other but she didn't ask me to come down and I didn't mention the fact that she had asked me to go down to her... Then we got chatting at the weekend on the phone and by text... She said that we should do something on the Sunday night as she wouldn't be in work on the Monday... I told her on the phone, playfully, that she had referred to our night out as our "first date" and asked her was that the drink talking, and she said that she was "red" (embarrassed). So Sunday came and I called her and told her I had a plan of action for Sunday night... She asked if it would be okay to leave it until Monday night as she's not in work until late on Tuesday. She has to leave her son with her mother if she's going out and her mother was in work early on Monday morning and so this meant that Sunday night wouldn't work out... I said no problem... I said that we should meet at 8pm on Monday night and told her the place but told her to call me on Monday to confirm... I said that I'm aware she has her son to look after and that if it's ever inconvenient for her, to just let me know... So Monday has come and gone. I waited until 7.15pm last night for a text or call from her. I sent her a text asking if she's still up for a few drinks later on and the comedy club as we had planned. Again, she is the one who said that we should do something... not me... She's going away during the week to the US and after our catch up night she could have easily said "Well, I'm heading away for a couple of weeks, so I'll keep in touch when I get back" or anything else... But she actually asked me to do something on Sunday or Monday just gone... So anyway.. I sent her that text.. and then called her.. The phone rang but there was no answer... And since then I haven't contacted her and she hasn't contacted me... In my opinion, she has a history of playing mind games with men. She did it before when we were younger, and she practically admitted it when were having a chat over drinks.. She said something along the lines of "It's amazing how much power us women have over you men. We can make you do anything..." I think she is trying to * * * * with me... As I said, I sent her a text and tried to call her, only once. I'm going to leave it up to her now to make contact, but what's your opinion on what's going on here? Thanks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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