cheng Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 Hello people! I am currently in a relationship for 6 months now. I love my boyfriend so much. He is wonderful. My family loves him and he also introduced me to his family already. I think we are compatible because we are not always fighting unlike with my previous relationships which was a disaster. We treat each other equally and we respect each other. Though sometimes, there would be misunderstandings but at the end of the day we are sorting it out. The problem I'm having here is about sex, basically. There are times that I am not enjoying it. I'm the kind of girl who loves foreplays but sometimes he will just go straight to the point, if you know what I mean. Other times though, it was awesome. I don't know if I should tell him that I am not satisfied sometimes. I am afraid that I might hurt his feelings. What shall I do? Please help. Thanks. Link to comment
Fudgie Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 Besides the lack of foreplay, is there anything else about sex that you don't feel satisfied with? I would just talk to him. Tell him that sex is way more enjoyable for you when you're aroused enough and if you have enough foreplay, it's a LOT better for you. If he cares about you, he'll meet your needs. Some guys just go "straight for it" because they don't know any better and need to be reminded that it sometimes takes a little more time for us women. Make it about YOU when you talk to him. Say "I want more foreplay" not "You don't give me enough foreplay". That way it doesn't sound like he's doing something wrong. Link to comment
tmtex Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 Kinda like my ex wife. She would just lay there like a dead fish. She was always like that. I just did my thing and glad she's gone now. LOL. Talk to him!! Link to comment
thejigsup Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 Guys have to be TOLD about foreplay???? Give me a break! If a guy doesn't know that, he has no business having sex. Like she said, he's good at it...when he bothers. Sometimes men get very selfish during sex and we give up "and lie there". What does that say about the guy? Link to comment
Fudgie Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 Guys have to be TOLD about foreplay???? Give me a break! If a guy doesn't know that, he has no business having sex. Like she said, he's good at it...when he bothers. Sometimes men get very selfish during sex and we give up "and lie there". What does that say about the guy? I found out that a relative of mine (not naming names) is like this. Doesn't do foreplay at all. Just sort of rolls on top and that's the end of it. Yup, there are definitely people out there who don't know what to do. Or they are just really, REALLY selfish. Link to comment
thejigsup Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 You can't drive a car unless you know how...should be the same for sex. So many women never learn to cum because some men can't be bothered to lean how to please women. So many men never get enough sex because their ladies don't know how to enjoy it. It's a vicious cycle. Link to comment
greywolf Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 Guys have to be TOLD about foreplay???? Give me a break! If a guy doesn't know that, he has no business having sex. Like she said, he's good at it...when he bothers. Sometimes men get very selfish during sex and we give up "and lie there". What does that say about the guy? The OP is from a country where sex is still a taboo subject, so it doesn't surprise me that he is a little ignorant. Cheng, you have to tell him what you like. He won't know unless you tell him. You don't have to make a big deal about it, but next time if he's going straight to the point, you can just mention the things you'd like to do with him first. Link to comment
thejigsup Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 I think it is possible to discuss sex in private in any country. It may not make it to the media or in public discussion, but it can be talked about, believe me. She said he is amazing and satisfies her when he feels like it. It's not that he doesn't know, he doesn't do it all the time. That equal lazy and selfish. Link to comment
Oneironaut Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 I guess I'm in the minority, because I don't necessarily see him as selfish. Maybe for him, sometimes it's just about raw passion, and he wants to just "go for the gusto". Every single sexual encounter isn't going to be wonderful for both people, just like every meal we eat isn't going to be gourmet, and even the best of partners aren't perfect. Really, though, it comes down to 2 choices: Either try talking to him about it and go from there based on his reaction, or put up with those occasions because the rest of the time, he makes you feel "awesome". Link to comment
Realitynut Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 sometimes I like a nice, hard, quicky! Link to comment
greywolf Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 I guess I'm in the minority, because I don't necessarily see him as selfish. Maybe for him, sometimes it's just about raw passion, and he wants to just "go for the gusto". Every single sexual encounter isn't going to be wonderful for both people, just like every meal we eat isn't going to be gourmet, and even the best of partners aren't perfect. Really, though, it comes down to 2 choices: Either try talking to him about it and go from there based on his reaction, or put up with those occasions because the rest of the time, he makes you feel "awesome". I agree with you. Passion turns me on more than foreplay. Everyone is different. Link to comment
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