Struggling to figure this out

[Rally]

I've been texting and seeing this girl for a while.. we like each other. I think.

 

Well she even made it a point to call me and tell me she likes me. I caved in and told her I like her too.

 

Am I just being insecure? I feel like since I caved in, I lost the game or something. I can't talk to her with my nonchalant confidence anymore. I feel like now that she knows.. she won the battle and shes just

content with that.

 

We did hang out recently after the phone call that she admitted to liking me. We madeout, but when I pushed to see her another time she doesn't seem to have time to see me. (bs.. i know)

 

Whats going on?

 

Even if we end up dating and becoming exclusive.. it feels like our whole relationship is a game and a power struggle. I hate it. I never felt like I had this problem before.. but then again I am not in high school anymore (last relationship was from high school)

[Stay_home]

If she's playing games, then I don't think that you're really missing out on anything other than a bunch of nonsense.

[Rally]

There is always games.

 

If I don't play then I lose.

[jjcool00]

There is always games.

 

If I don't play then I lose.

 

Yes, there are always games.. but do you lose? I like to think of it as THEY lose. I have everything to gain and nothing to lose... I'm sure the same can be said of you. You really want to play the game then the answer is simple. Act like you care less than she is.

[Rally]

Hmm but you really believe that if you don't play the game you win?

 

I guess you are right that they do lose if we decide to stop playing the game. But the difficult part with being guys is that, in the end, girls have WAY more options. In a way they don't really lose. They just lose the opportunity with you but they still have so many more options with other people.

 

But you are right.. act like a care less. Then I win.

[jjcool00]

Let's see if I play the game then I'm with someone who thinks of me as someone I'm not really... it creates tension, headaches, etc. So ya I believe they lose. I'm not going to disguise myself as someone I'm not or act like someone I'm not. I'm me if you don't like me, beat it. I don't play any games, I'm very honest and upfront about what I expect once the "relationship" evolves to the point of the discussion where you are talking about "what's going on between us." If I feel like I want to spend time with that person I'll tell them, if I don't ill tell them we should part ways. Girls do have more options but its QUALITY over QUANTITY. They are losing, I KNOW im the best thing out there in every aspect and category, let them try to find better, the wont.