I don't get why he always stops when we're so happy...

[Saures]

Recently, our relationship has gotten out of the rocks and we're really happy...

I've changed myself to help the relationship, not out of being forced or pressured but so I could become a better person

And since, the relationship couldn't be better... except.... When we get into a good conversation, he'll just go..? (we're in a long distance relationship so we can't hang out together) but every time its a different reason.

"I have to go make tea for everyone"

"I have to go to bed"

"I have to have a bath"

"I'm watching this video so I'll talk to you later"

"I think I'll go now"

"I think I'm going to go make some dinner"

But the problem is, he doesn't just go on "brb" as some would, he actually signs off msn and doesn't come back...

 

I have told him its so confusing, because we both complain theres nothing to talk about, and when there is, he just leaves, and because we've had a discussion and I am probably verging on being the best girlfriend ever, according to articles and what he has said to me, and honestly, I'm not even getting a lengthy fun conversation in return?

Whats going through his mind?

He said to me its just he'd rather leave at a good point than a bad one, but every time he leaves it confuses me and upsets me because it makes me feel as if I have said something wrong or its not good enough?

[puppetted]

My dear, I really don't know the answer to your question, but I think you are correct in suspecting something is wrong. This is not normal behavior if it happens all the time. Have you talked to him about this at length? Do you feel as though you're getting enough attention from him? I'm getting the feeling that you don't get enough attention from him, from your post.

[Saures]

My dear, I really don't know the answer to your question, but I think you are correct in suspecting something is wrong. This is not normal behavior if it happens all the time. Have you talked to him about this at length? Do you feel as though you're getting enough attention from him? I'm getting the feeling that you don't get enough attention from him, from your post.

 

At first, i wasn't giving him enough space, and thats what caused a lot of problems so I think now he takes advantage of the fact I wont say anything about him going because ti makes it better when we're together, now I just feel like I'm not a massive priority, so I think he just wants to do as much as he can when he wants nd what h wants before i say "no id like you to stay at home with me"...

I did talk to him and he was saying how he thinks its fair and theres not a problem and its not being unfair

[DN]

About how long are these conversations before he gives reason for leaving?

[superfox]

LDR are not the same as 'normal' ones. You end up talking to them, possibly more than other relationships, more often. And sometimes there just isn't anything left to say. I talk to my bf every night, for anything from 10 minutes to a couple of hours depending on if we're busy. Sometimes there isn't much to talk about, sometimes he'll be wanting his food, sometimes i'll realise i've not listened to him as my mind has wandered! When we are together we don't have those gaps. We can sit in silence without needing to fill the void.

 

If you are talking or expecting to talk to him every night then why not leave it for two or three days? Then he can get his food ready, have more to talk about, will have had time to miss you.

He said to me its just he'd rather leave at a good point than a bad one, but every time he leaves it confuses me and upsets me because it makes me feel as if I have said something wrong or its not good enough?

Do you get upset often when you can sense the conversation is ending?

It could be that talking to you makes him miss you more. I know my bf has a hard time sometimes when we talk and we're not together.

You need to ask calmly - next time you're together NOT over the phone or by email - what he means by this.