RubyWoo Posted September 10, 2011 Share Posted September 10, 2011 This is something that bothers me a bit... My ex used to say he didn't mind cellulite because it usually comes with curvy body types which he found hot. Still it seems he is interested in the skinnier types now (change in taste, or just hypocrite?) Anyhow, it has taken a toll on my self esteem, which has never been that great to start with. So my question is, do you guys mind some cellulite around the thighs? I have breasts, little waist and big hips, bum and thighs (think Kim Kardashian boy type) so it's hard to fight cellulite and fat in certain places. If a woman appears confident, do guys overlook these flaws and still find them attractive? What can I do to feel better about this? Link to comment
22n32 Posted September 10, 2011 Share Posted September 10, 2011 I def overlook it.. nobody is perfect.. my ex was curvy. Big breast and butt.. narrow shoulders curvy on a small frame.. nothing sexier then a curvy women, I'm not into the stick figure, body like a 14yr old boy, its gross.. U have nothing to worry about.. embrace what u have.. Link to comment
puppetted Posted September 10, 2011 Share Posted September 10, 2011 If I may ask, how have you noticed that he is interested in thin women now? Has he made comments to you about it? I know, I know, I'm female, but I like to think I can appreciate beauty in all people (I draw / paint etc and I'm used to seeing all body forms). I think what you've described there is widely popular (even if it isn't popularized on runways and such usually). Kim Kardashian is pretty darn popular because many people find her very attractive. No one type is "perfect" to everyone after all! He could be attracted to many types, but "mostly" attracted to the type you've described there. I hate to use this analogy because it sounds so cheesy...but I like chocolate ice cream 80% of the time, strawberry 18%, and something with bits of candy in it the other 2%. It could be something like that. If that's you in your avatar, I think you're beautiful (and I'm not just saying that). In my experience, confidence is huge! It isn't true for everyone I'm sure, but I get the feeling with people who are noticably embarrassed of their appearance, that it's hard to really 'get past' that. Confidence really helps make people approachable, whatever the scenario might be. Link to comment
DN Posted September 10, 2011 Share Posted September 10, 2011 Perhaps he interested in more things about a woman than her size. Link to comment
Doc Blaze Posted September 10, 2011 Share Posted September 10, 2011 depends what...around the upper legs and stuff is def a turn off for me. I cant overlook that. Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted September 10, 2011 Share Posted September 10, 2011 Focus on your personality and what you have to offer someone rather than whether or not you have the body of a model. Perhaps your ex is interested in the personality of these women and they just happen to be skinnier. He may not be looking at size at all..this is your insecurity and this is something you need to deal with. Women of all different sizes have boyfriends so stop focusing on your body...love the body you have. Link to comment
RubyWoo Posted September 10, 2011 Author Share Posted September 10, 2011 Maybe DN, but he's always said no one has ever understood him like I do and he had never met anyone as amazing as me that he could just talk to for hours. He always complimented my personality. I'm not really worried about what HE thinks right now, more about men in general. Trying to figure out whether trying to be more confident and follow the "fake it till you make it" rule will make a guy notice it less if I were to get naked. I have no issues regarding my worth. I'm active, hard working, successful in my job and absolutely confident about the way I act and my personality. Just a bit self conscious about my body, that's why I was asking... Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted September 10, 2011 Share Posted September 10, 2011 How many guys have perfect bodies...not many. They too have flabby stomachs, flabby thighs and unsightly moles. Remember that thin women also have their insecurities, often about their breast size or the manly shape of their body. People don't have perfectly sculpted bodies...and if someone does, do you really want to be with someone who spends much of their time trying to have the perfect looking body...usually that is not done for "health reasons"...the song "you're so vain" comes to mind when I see people trying to get the perfectly sculpted body. Link to comment
RubyWoo Posted September 10, 2011 Author Share Posted September 10, 2011 I know, I know! I don't want to be with a man who has a perfect body or think it's the most important thing at all! But I think it's important that your partner finds you attractive, right? Keeping in mind that everyone has different preferences Link to comment
Shudder Posted September 10, 2011 Share Posted September 10, 2011 im going to speak the truth here and say that your body type, is definitly my thing, cellulite or not. i dont think you have anything to worry about, lots of guys wont be bothered by trivial things like that Link to comment
ApocalypseDreams Posted September 11, 2011 Share Posted September 11, 2011 I wouldn't think much of it. The body type you've described (little waist, big hips etc) is pretty favorable to alot of guys. Myself included. Link to comment
Jnyce2010 Posted September 11, 2011 Share Posted September 11, 2011 This is something that bothers me a bit... My ex used to say he didn't mind cellulite because it usually comes with curvy body types which he found hot. Still it seems he is interested in the skinnier types now (change in taste, or just hypocrite?) Anyhow, it has taken a toll on my self esteem, which has never been that great to start with. So my question is, do you guys mind some cellulite around the thighs? I have breasts, little waist and big hips, bum and thighs (think Kim Kardashian boy type) so it's hard to fight cellulite and fat in certain places. If a woman appears confident, do guys overlook these flaws and still find them attractive? What can I do to feel better about this? I love hips, thighs, and nothing beats curves its so attractive because its purely feminine, I only date women with curves.. Just about 95% of the women that I have been with that have a great figure have some cellulite.. It is inescapable, Kim Kardashian,Beyonce, and Shakira all have cellulite and it doesn't seem to bother them and guys think they are drop dead gorgeous.. Be confident babe, maybe he's just interested in several different types of women... With guys if you act like there is no issue, most times guys will do the same unless you point it out.. Link to comment
RubyWoo Posted September 11, 2011 Author Share Posted September 11, 2011 Thanks guys!! I'll try to remember that when/if I start dating again, not say anything about my body issues just try to ignore it and hopefully the guy won't notice it! Link to comment
hausser Posted September 11, 2011 Share Posted September 11, 2011 This is something that bothers me a bit... My ex used to say he didn't mind cellulite because it usually comes with curvy body types which he found hot. Still it seems he is interested in the skinnier types now (change in taste, or just hypocrite?) Anyhow, it has taken a toll on my self esteem, which has never been that great to start with. So my question is, do you guys mind some cellulite around the thighs? I have breasts, little waist and big hips, bum and thighs (think Kim Kardashian boy type) so it's hard to fight cellulite and fat in certain places. If a woman appears confident, do guys overlook these flaws and still find them attractive? What can I do to feel better about this? I wouldn't care in the slightest, and vast majority of the men I know prefer the Kim Kardashian (small waist, big bum and thigs) body type. Don't get me wrong men aren't going to turn down a skinny woman down I think I've seen studies where small waist to hip ratio is hardwired into men as it shows fertillity potential lol. So the answer is yes, would overlook it, wouldnt need overlooking anyway as long as the confidence is there. Men like real women. Link to comment
Unknown1607307972 Posted September 12, 2011 Share Posted September 12, 2011 Anyhow, it has taken a toll on my self esteem, which has never been that great to start with. So my question is, do you guys mind some cellulite around the thighs? I have breasts, little waist and big hips, bum and thighs (think Kim Kardashian boy type) so it's hard to fight cellulite and fat in certain places. That pretty accurately describes me too and it is very hard to fight cellulite in those certain places, it makes me feel quite paranoid when I go swimming for example. My boyfriend however says it doesn't bother him and he loves my shape. Link to comment
Day_Walker Posted September 12, 2011 Share Posted September 12, 2011 I think that guys know if a girl has curves then most likely there is going to be cellulite. Of course there are going to be guys that will comment on it and how they dont like it. I think that you just have to be confident in your own skin because that in itself is sexy. Link to comment
RubyWoo Posted December 1, 2011 Author Share Posted December 1, 2011 Thanks everyone for the input! Link to comment
Thorshammer Posted December 2, 2011 Share Posted December 2, 2011 Mmmm curves... You have no idea what that does to me. I had a girl like Jlo, hmmmm... not much compares... not much compares..... god... girls like that... when they walk away... it hurts... a lot... But seriously, a curvy girl is a type that I like. I also like really thin girls. I dont see one as better than the other, they are both my thing. Its funny because my ex said I sexually chased her less because I am used to big butt or wide hip women or nice thick thighs with a small waist (sorry... I am going off again)... that wasnt true because I only had one, but thats what she thought for some reason. My cousin loooooves curvy girls that he has an obsession, but he ended up marrying a really thin girl? Link to comment
capuccino83 Posted December 2, 2011 Share Posted December 2, 2011 Cellulite only curvy girls is actually a huge myth. I'm very skinny and have cellulite, and cellulite is usually related to how well your body hydrates itself and eliminates waste rather than how much fat you have. So OP, you don't have to worry about the skinny girls without any cellulites. That being said, fat (both on curvy and skinny girls) does make cellulite more pronounced, so doing weight training - no matter your shape or size - will help minimize the appearance of cellulite and eating a life long healthy and natural diet (basically no packaged consumer goods) will prevent it from getting worse since there is less crap for your body to try to eliminate. Link to comment
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