frree Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 I'm not sure how to change this behavior because my ego won't allow it. I'm too aloof, and I scare women just with my presence. I don't not like smiling because it makes me feel weak. Sort of like I'm surrendering. But not smiling scares people, and I have that grumpy type of look. I have problems and cannot start a realationship because of my ego. First of all I believe women should talk to me not me to them. I know it's irrational, but to me it's humiliating for me to be the one who initiates conversation so for that reason I don't bother. Secondly, I'm unromantic and don't believe in all that " I love you baby" type of crap. I find it repulsive, I'm not romantic and don't want to be. Thirdly, I have problems feeling much emotion. Now I'm not an evil person, but I was raised in a family where no hugs or compassion was ever shown, only anger was expressed. So I do not like hugs because it seems weak and feminine. I did have therapy but found it hard to break this pattern of thinking. Anybody here been in a similar situation and had much success in changing? Link to comment
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