ikermall Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Hey guys, So after 13 days of strict NC, i caved i went on NC without telling her. Basically she called it off because she said she didn't love me anymore and that I wasn't the guy for her. The day after i begged and pleaded to no avail, then i went on NC for 13 days. Yesterday I sent this email to her: S***, I just wanted to apologize about how I acted after you called it off between us. It was quite disrespectful, rude, and frankly immature. I am truly sorry. I'm taking this time to focus on myself and I want to give you your time and space as well (I think we both need it). This will be my only email for a while unless you wish to stay in touch. I hope you're having a blast in España! - I**** So did i make a big mistake? I know she won't be responding because she talked about it with her sister, who i am close to (at least she thought about it hah). what do i do??? Link to comment
mhowe Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 you did nothing wrong, but I wouldn't count on a response. It's called moving on. Link to comment
Eocsor Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 What do you think you've screwed up? Your chances of reconcilliation? Not much chance of that happening. About the only thing you've messed up is your dignity a little but thats no biggie. Just relax, work on healing yourself and move on. Link to comment
David Mac Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Did you break up and neither of you made an attempt to contact one another for 13 days, or did she try to contact you and you ignored her? Link to comment
ikermall Posted September 9, 2011 Author Share Posted September 9, 2011 we broke up and neither of us have made an attempt to contact each other. In case you're wondering, we did not fight about the break up, nor did i ever cheat or doing anything to that extent. Probably why this is so hard on me Link to comment
mhowe Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Basically she called it off because she said she didn't love me anymore and that I wasn't the guy for her There's really no where to go from there. Link to comment
BlueInLA Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Nothing wrong with what you did. Unless you were expecting a response, because you're probably not going to get one. If you feel like you could still be friends with her, then I see no harm in staying in contact. You have to be strong and secure enough in yourself before you can do that, though. Anyway, nothing wrong with saying "hello" and apologizing. I don't think you lost any dignity over that. Rather, I think it was a noble thing to do. So many people play games. You were just being honest about your feelings. Link to comment
Timefornc Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 There's really no where to go from there. But without getting anyone's hope up, that may not always be true Link to comment
ikermall Posted September 9, 2011 Author Share Posted September 9, 2011 Yea to be honest, i just felt bad about acting needy and begging, so i apologized for it. At first I expected a response, but knowing her she won't do it (she's very good at being strong emotionally). In any event, guess I'm going back to NC for another 3 weeks or so then i'll just shoot another short email to see how she is. Good or bad idea?? thanks guys Link to comment
DerekJason Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 In any event, guess I'm going back to NC for another 3 weeks or so then i'll just shoot another short email to see how she is. Good or bad idea?? thanks guys See how you feel in 3 weeks, i know i did that same thing, waited almost 4 weeks after the begging/pleading/crying thing, and OH MAN did that set me back AGAIN when i couldnt budge her. So yeah my vote is no. Link to comment
1m50L0nl3y Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 For me this sounds like an apology. You only messed up by saying "unless you want to stay in touch". This is someone who told you she doesn't love you and you're not the one. So I think you shouldn't have said that, sounds like she is the one with the control and chooses when and how you will be back together. Don't expect this email to get her, it's not going to work. Link to comment
happymeboy Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Email is terrible,bad idea but whats done is done...nothing major anyways... What worries me is ur estate of mind,after 3 weeks to contact her again ? What for, to beg again ? to see if u got a chance or she changed her mind ? Best reaction u will get from her will be focusing in urself, ignore her and move on so u can show her ur respect by accepting her decision. Rest is just jambo jambo.Easier said than done but is all what u got now,isnt it ? Then use it !! Link to comment
ikermall Posted September 10, 2011 Author Share Posted September 10, 2011 well i can only email her since she's studying abroad for a semester until january. and i've had a change of heart, i'll shoot her an email in november for her birthday, nice and simple. now that can be that bad right?? Link to comment
TomboyMS Posted September 10, 2011 Share Posted September 10, 2011 well i can only email her since she's studying abroad for a semester until january. and i've had a change of heart, i'll shoot her an email in november for her birthday, nice and simple. now that can be that bad right?? Yeah that's a much better idea. Link to comment
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