What was the longest it has taken you to "heal"? Or the shortest?

[MrsAshton]

With my last ex, it took about 2 months to get over it.

 

I think the longest time it has taken me was 1 1/2 but it was my first relationship.

 

Just curious.

[Eocsor]

After a 14 year relationship it took me about two years to totally get over it.

[northpickle]

The ex before this one, who I spent 5 years with, had a child with and lived with took me no time at all to get over. None.

 

The reason was that I was already, in my mind, out of love and no longer in a relationship with him when we officially split. We lived together but had separate lives really. So I did my grieving while we were still together, if you see what I mean.

 

This current break-up is very VERY different however!

[volvic1]

The ex before this one, who I spent 5 years with, had a child with and lived with took me no time at all to get over. None.

 

The reason was that I was already, in my mind, out of love and no longer in a relationship with him when we officially split. We lived together but had separate lives really. So I did my grieving while we were still together, if you see what I mean.

 

I can totally relate to this!! Together 4 years but was over him instanly when we finally broke up, which was the same, due to the fact I had being "single" for a long time before I was. But I think if my current BF broke up with me now I would be devastated.

[tommytoxen]

Took me 6 years to get over it and finally pluck the courage to enter a new relationship.

[RitaTrue]

With my last relationship, it took me a year and a half to heal.

 

With the most recent one, we broke up in June, but were still talking like friends for about 2 months, which stalled my healing =/ and my hopes. I didnt start healing until I started NC, a month ago. On a scale of one (not over him) and ten (completely done with him), I'm a 6.5. This gives me hope on what another 1-2 months of NC will give me.

[Carus]

I'm 2.5 years and counting....*sigh*

 

8-)

[boyblue]

RL about 8 months and about same time to get over - don't ask we all take out own time.

 

BB

[Live-N-Learn]

19 months and still counting.

[corgidude]

5 and a half months so far. Still not making much improvement. Thought I was pretty well over things toward the end of July/beginning of August, but had a pretty major relapse and haven't managed to get out of it. Still miss her, still hurting, still not sure how I'm going to get past this. This is easily the longest it's ever taken me to get over someone.

[lalalollipops]

I'm healed. Took me nearly 14 months.

 

Ever other relationship before was a breeze---few days-month max lol.

With the relationship I had this year (after the ex I took ages getting over), I didn't need any time to get over things lol. Not even half a day.

[beautifulangel]

After a 2.5 yrs intense relationship she broke off. This months its one year and five months. And i feel completely healed.

I don't miss her, neither do those feelings for her are there i had them or felt during our break up. I don't feel the 'VOID'

any more. I am still single but happy as well. That's why they say 'It gets and it will get better with time".

Hang in there Comrade...

[quirky]

I never really did and maybe that's why we got back together (2 years apart). But overall it started getting better when I decided to move on, take each day at a time, live in the present and not hold on to the pain.

[jjcool00]

First real relationship (lasted 4-5 months) : About two months. (probably due to the fact that she was my first)

 

Second relationship (lasted 5 years): One day - My heart knew she wasn't the one and when we ended it we both knew we weren't right for each other... we both got all we could out of the relationship and knew it could go no further. (She dumped me btw, but I didn't argue it, at all)

 

Third relationship (lasted a year): One day - Same story, weren't right for each other, no communication, no future, etc. I moved on quickly.

 

Fourth relationship (lasted a year): One day - Same as above.

 

Fifth relationship (lasted 3 months - most current) - Broke up in July, STILL healing. I think about her daily, I miss her, etc. Me and her had the most in common, no communication issues, no arguments ever, were able to be with each other and trust each other 100% even when we didnt see each other for days. Saw a potential future in her that I've never seen in a partner ever before. I'm definitely better than I was about 2 months ago when she left, but I still miss her, compare every single girl I see to her, compare every girl interested in me to her... I still have her on a damn pedestal and it's difficult for me to knock her down knowing how compatible we were. We've been NC since my birthday in mid august, I don't know if she's tried to reach out to me as I lost my phone and didnt get a new one for about two weeks... I dont even have her contact info anymore.

 

Everyone's different, it's not to say I don't miss the people I've previously had a relationship with, like im some cold heartless bastard... I do miss certain things about them, I did love them, they will always be a part of my heart. However, when you know for sure there's no future, no potential to change or fix things that aren't working for you it becomes MUCH easier to heal. It's much much harder when you lose someone you see something inside of, something that you could spend forever with, someone you can build with. When someone doesn't cheat, doesnt find someone else, etc. its harder to move past because you feel like there's no real reason for a termination and maybe you can convince them otherwise. If it's 3 months, or 5 years... it doesn't matter you will always know that if that person wanted it as well, you would've stayed with them forever. I know someone will come along that will be better for me, and will be better for all of you as well... for now I am stuck in limbo, carrying on this life that i feel would be complete if i had that person by my side. I dont pray for anything in life, not money, well being, health, etc just a person I can rely on that is perfect for me.

 

I can't wait til the day when I can post something on here about that person when our paths finally cross.

[LaKings55]

First attempts at relationships, didn't really care or want to be in a relationship so not long at all. This past one, took about 6 months to get over a 1 year relationship with about 6 months of friendship before that.

[lemsip]

I'm def getting better (after 3 months) but f*ck knows how long it'll take me to fully heal from my 8-year RL.

 

I think I need a major change (eg. move city or something) to really get things moving.