SorrowandPain Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Hi all, I had a terrible break up of a really toxic relationship in which my ex of 2 years left me for someone else. It has been 6 weeks since she booted me, 4 weeks since NC/finding out about her having someone else when she broke it off with me and 2 weeks since I checked her facebook. At the one month mark, I have really strong urges to check her facebook. Is this normal? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RitaTrue Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Yes. In fact, I would say kudos for not having the urges to check your ex's FB sooner. The urges are a normal part of the process, just like it's a normal part of the process to desire to contact them, even though you know you're on NC. Stay strong in NC. It does get better with time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FairyBread Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 completely normal...i was naughty and i checked her facebook instead of his last night (i completely reasoned that that was ok in my head) :S didn't get me upset like it use to so i guess that's better ... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SorrowandPain Posted September 9, 2011 Author Share Posted September 9, 2011 Oh I've had urges to check over the past 2 weeks but none as strong as this. Really doesn't help that I know her password. Must stay the course! I think a part of my mind is hoping that the rebound will end and she'll come back to me even though her coming back to me would be one of the worst things that could happen to me in my life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsAshton Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Deactivate it. OR block them. Or block the FB website for a while until the urges wear off. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
northpickle Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Facebook is still a killer for me, and I'm only 1 week into break-up and NC. With so many mutual friends, I'm over analysing everything they post! I haven't posted anything in the last week either. I have already deactivated once but thought "Why should I give up something I enjoy because I've been dumped?" and I do still want to keep in touch with other people. It sounds silly but I think I need to see something that really REALLY upsets me before I deactivate or block. And I haven't seen anything that bad yet. FB is still in limbo at the moment. Stupid Facebook! Grr! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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