Confused about my ex

[Smile12]

Hey everyone. I was with my ex for about 2 years - moved about 800 miles away for him actually. We lived together for about a year. He ended up breaking up with me for another girl. I guess I've just always felt upset about the situation, even to this day, because I made so many sacrifices for him (moving 800 miles away) and he just didn't appreciate any of it. Anyway, back to the point - I have been with my current boyfriend for almost 9 months now. He is AMAZING.He is everything I've ever wanted in a man, plus so much more.

 

So my question is - is it normal to still think about my ex from time to time? And I just recently saw on facebook that my ex is seeing someone now and I just got this weird aching feeling in my chest.. I am so confused by these feelings. I KNOW that I would never even consider getting back together with my ex, so why am I feeling this way?

 

I don't believe I still have feelings for him - because I truly do love my current boyfriend with all my heart. I don't understand this..

[Ocean of Blue]

Sounds like you aren't over him

[Smile12]

Meh, I don't know. My ex is constantly texting me "wanting to be friends" and it just makes it so much worse. I always tell myself, "you're over him now.. you can be friends again" but then it just makes things awkward. I always feel like it takes me 2 steps back, whenever he starts contacting me. I really don't even understand why he wants to be friends with me. I moved back home and live 800 miles away again - what is the point.

 

I'm just gunna have to cut off communication.

[DN]

I think it's normal. Providing he isn't in your thoughts all the time and these thoughts are not interfering in your current relationship I don't think it is a problem.

[Smile12]

I think it's normal. Providing he isn't in your thoughts all the time and these thoughts are not interfering in your current relationship I don't think it is a problem.

 

Yeah, I honestly never think about him - unless he is contacting me, or popping up on facebook.

 

If I never heard/ saw anything about him.. I don't believe he'd even cross my mind.

[DN]

Then tell him to stop contacting you and all will be well.

[Sm99]

Then tell him to stop contacting you and all will be well.

 

Agreed... recently had to do this myself. I simply told him "it would make my life a lot less complicated if we didn;t talk." Because I know my current bf doesn't like it and frankly, I'm a little disturbed by how strong my feelings are for my ex after many years!

[Brnshark]

True that may be telling him not to contact you would be best, Or start by unfriending him on face book first. I have a kid and I have to talk to my current ex and let me tell you if i didnt have to communicate with him it would be so much easier on me.