She won't talk about why we're not together anymore

[bungalo]

Started dating a gal about 6 weeks ago. It took off pretty fast. Over and over we both acknowledged the great chemistry, and great rapport we had. Last weekend (Labor Day) we spent 3 days together. By day two, she started getting very distant. I rolled with it. Finally at the end of the weekend she said she was freaked out because she wasn't used to being with someone so much. The long weekend together was HER IDEA. I agreed to give her time and space, but she said it wasn't me (she had problems with her son), but said she just couldn't give me what I wanted...I never even TOLD her what I wanted. I was just having fun getting to know her. She is kind of a hard partier...which I'm not thrilled about, but I rolled with that too. I do wonder if the weed is a bigger factor than I anticipated...anyway..we never really broke up, she has just become very business like with me (via text mostly)..and now she doesn't talk to me at all. I didn't even get an exit interview...the last time I saw her face to face she said, "I can't talk about anything.." What the eff?

[Lithp]

Don't let her string you along. She's not willing to talk about the problems? Even though she hasn't 'formally' broken up with you, she's listed enough reasons as to why she thinks it won't work, and now she's starting to follow up with her actions, however vague they might be right now. I would call her out on it, ask her what she's looking for out of this, and then go from there. If she says 'I don't know', that basically means she's done. If she won't talk about it, don't let her get away with that. Just end it. If she's willing to talk it out and work through the issues she may be having, then go ahead if you want, but don't let her keep you in limbo or guessing where you stand with her.

[beacon]

My ex of 2 years wouldn't speak openly to me about reasons. She was very short and a bit cold.. almost numb. Yet she'd talk about how much she loved and cared for me. It was sad for me, but now it's making me angry.

 

Oh and at one point she did say I'm too intense. I should have stabbed her in the knee.

[bungalo]

I just think its BS. I've always given the person I'm breaking up with the courtesy of trying to explain myself. After I posted this original text, I got a text from her saying that we could talk this weekend. If she doesn't contact me, I'm done with her for good. Beacon, my ex (after 5 years together) was ice cold and beeatchy too when she broke up...unbelievable...I don't understand...its almost like they're pissed that their feelings changed or whatever..but God forbid they have the decency to verbalize this...sheeeshhhh