do nice guys finish last?

[jsw]

Im just wondering do girls not go for the nicer guy when they are younger? I am dating a girl, shes 21 and I am 24. Thats not a huge age difference but a at point where it seems bigger. I just graduated graduate school and started a job, where she just turned 21 and is in her senior year of college. She just moved in there and all her friends are turning 21 too.

 

I would understand if she is not looking for anything but she used to text me all the time, say things were perfect and that she liked me a lot. But lately she ahs been cold and I get the feeling that she may be seeing other guys or at least still not over her ex.

 

Heres what I dont get: I have treated her better than any of her last relationships - even she has said so. Her last ex that she may not be over never took her out, rarely treated her, and never showed any emotion or real interest to making plans. He has no job and is not going to school. They would fight very badly, to the point where she would scream at him in ways that she never thought she would.

 

I dont put pressure on her physically and yet I feel like what i do is not as appreciated. in fact this last weekend she was supposed to let me know about if she would be able to hang out and I never heard from her...not even a text saying she could not make it.

 

Do you think shes not interested anymore or just enjoying her first week back at school? I basically have still been nice and sweet in texts but have been waiting for her to text me rather than the other way around. Is nonchalant a good way to go about this, or be more direct?

[Tryptophan]

I wouldn't be pushy since you are considering a reason why she might be acting this way. But if after that she's still the same then bring it up.

 

However, I don't think it's really about "nice guys". You can still be nice without being a doormat. The problem is when you become a doormat or you don't stand up for yourself.

[22n32]

I always let her finish first anyways. U gotta be nice and an a$$hole,

 

Gotta be a man take charge be a leader, u can be true to ur feelings and be nice and express that wo being a doormat or pushover..

 

Part of being a man is to follow ur belifs, wants, desires and fellings u might have for some..

 

It's okay to go after what u want. Ladies want the leader and guide the way. But be respectfull, don't lie or cheat to get ur way..

 

Best way to describe it what few of my exes have called me.. sweet/badboy.. women want both.

 

U have to be part sweet/badboy.. if that makes sense..

[delicous]

21 is the party age...I would remain non-chalant

[Tigerfan]

I always let her finish first anyways. U gotta be nice and an a$$hole,

 

Gotta be a man take charge be a leader, u can be true to ur feelings and be nice and express that wo being a doormat or pushover..

 

Part of being a man is to follow ur belifs, wants, desires and fellings u might have for some..

 

It's okay to go after what u want. Ladies want the leader and guide the way. But be respectfull, don't lie or cheat to get ur way..

 

Best way to describe it what few of my exes have called me.. sweet/badboy.. women want both.

 

U have to be part sweet/badboy.. if that makes sense..

 

I think you got it right on, especially at that age, and a little older too. Women want a good guy with a spine, not a spineless 'yes dear' kind of guy.

[blackhawks1287]

21 is too delicate of an age to take anything seriously...no matter how infatuated or in love two people may be...

 

So take it for what it is, and if she is blowing you off...speak up dude...don't just take her ignoring you...

[Ms Darcy]

Why don't you start dating women who are your age and interested in a relationship?

[hrtlsngl7]

Yes, nice guys do finish last. Treat her like crap and she will stay with you forever. Do it tastefully, don't be blatant about. Buy a rice-rocket motorcyle, lift some weights, and be all cool & aloof. That never fails.

[hrtlsngl7]

I always let her finish first anyways. U gotta be nice and an a$$hole,

 

Gotta be a man take charge be a leader, u can be true to ur feelings and be nice and express that wo being a doormat or pushover..

 

Part of being a man is to follow ur belifs, wants, desires and fellings u might have for some..

 

It's okay to go after what u want. Ladies want the leader and guide the way. But be respectfull, don't lie or cheat to get ur way..

 

Best way to describe it what few of my exes have called me.. sweet/badboy.. women want both.

 

U have to be part sweet/badboy.. if that makes sense..

 

This guy put it PERFECTLY...you gotta be 3/4 Piss & Vinegar & 1/4 honey to be sweet enough to keep her hooked.