Uhhh, i realized something/help/ thoughts

[Shakeybones]

Ok, so i lost my virginity too a girl, a little while back.. So ive experienced vagina lol.... But a major but at that. after having sex for the first time, Ive had alot more bi urges and thoughts as a guy.. like i still like women and stuff, but im no longer ruling out guy's like some are cute, some i wouldn't mind doing things with in the room etc.. ive also been like really into t-girls for awhile they just get me going like no other...But i still love real women...ahh * * * * im so damn confused

 

anyhoo, i talked to her about it and it turns out shes bi, and has experience with girls in the room.. so she is very accepting of the fact ive told her.. But now, she wants to take me to a gay/t-women bar im pretty excited about this, but i dont know what to expect.

 

Its like a mixed bag of emotions, and idk what to think lol.. im soo confused

[Deejmonster]

im glad that you can come out! congratulations! most people would be so afraid to do such a thing but I commend you on your efforts. You pretty much just summed your issue up.. you are confused right now and you are seeing what you like. There is nothing wrong with exploring what you might be into. You just had to lose your virginity to a girl to realize that you might want something more.. and I think thats fine. If you like both, you are fine. I'm glad that you can come to us and talk about it. Its rough.. but I am sure you feel better knowing that you can talk about it. Have fun but please be safe. Explore. Its what life is about.. and again congratulations on coming out. Most struggle with what you just did. Let us know how it goes.

[Tryptophan]

It's normal to be confused. Now they have the "Questioning/Confused" in just about every questionnaire I've seen regarding sexual orientation lol. I think the difference will be blurred out more as you get more experienced. Even if you are bi, there tends to be one side you like more.

 

Good luck experimenting!

[lukeb]

I have a hard time believing you have to actually experience it to find out what you are. It just seems odd that you can not know something so basic about yourself. Also to do it with just any guy or just any girl to me anyways doesn't tell you anything about your sexuality either. I have heard of guys who are in denial, and I guess denial can be a powerful thing. I'm sorry to me what you are saying doesn't ring true to me, but then I may be projecting my own experiences into this opinion.

 

Good luck to you.

[Shakeybones]

I have a hard time believing you have to actually experience it to find out what you are. It just seems odd that you can not know something so basic about yourself. Also to do it with just any guy or just any girl to me anyways doesn't tell you anything about your sexuality either. I have heard of guys who are in denial, and I guess denial can be a powerful thing. I'm sorry to me what you are saying doesn't ring true to me, but then I may be projecting my own experiences into this opinion.

 

Good luck to you.

 

I completely understand what your saying. But idk man i didn't really do that to find out my orientation, it was just like a after affect.. of realizations

[ceez]

I would just roll with it, go to the club and have fun (and like Tyrptophen said be safe). I think what really matters most is being with someone you connect with no matter the gender.

[FathomFear]

It's tempting to get hung up on labels because we live in a society that obsesses over that, but it's usually best not to worry about it. It sounds like you're attracted to a spectrum of different things, and that's perfectly okay. The trick is to pursue what brings you happiness, not push some emotions aside because they don't fit with a certain label.