hausser Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Now I know there are people who still miss their ex terribly even with a new partner, but there seem to be a hell of a lot more who only truly feel healed when they are in a new relationship. I know I stopped thinking of my first gf only when I got another and that was a good few years after. I've done 60+ days of NC, am putting on slabs of muscle in the gym (muscle memory, weight trained for 10+ years) job interviews galore and I still find I'm missing her a bit tbh. Not as sharply as before but my gut is telling me that now is the right time to go out and date someone else. I suppose "finding someone new" means serious dating or a new relationship as opposed to one night stands obviously. I wonder if there is a point at which you can "force" recovery by going into a relationship. For example, I know I was way too raw for the first 4 weeks at least, but I wonder if someone I was attracted to had made a serious move on me, and persevered at the post 4 week stage, would it have accelerated recovery? I mean, it works for a lot of dumpers? Any thoughts? *And yes in case you're wondering I have a woman being VERY persistent with regards to us meeting up. She is older than me by a few years and mature and I am 95% we could date lol. She is attractive but my confidence is still pretty shot. I'm thinking it may regrow it a little. Link to comment
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