broghamzvatox Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 The purpose of the poem is to inform her of my desire, assuming that she has any desire for me, we could enter a relationship thereafter. I have but one fear in writing this poem! I don't want to intimidate or frighten her! Imagine randomly receiving a poem from an individual you have spoken to for no more than 1 minute over the course of three weeks. The poem: Also don't hesitate to recommend changes to the poem. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tryptophan Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Freaked me out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Samedy Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 I did that in High School. Did it work out for me? Not really. The girl had no idea who I was, and my friends found out pretty quick what I did. At the time I was fairly embarrassed. And it really didn't help with the girl, as I was told she was into "older guys"... Fastforward to however many years it has been. I am glad I did it. Just for the sake of doing something. It probably would have been a better approach to think of some way to talk to her in person. And you can't really say you can't think of a way to do that, you have already demonstrated that you like to be creative.. So do so, but in a way that results in you talking to someone... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NCforME Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 No........ It's weird. A Girl doesn't want to feel loved until you have a reason to love her and even then keep the poems to a minimum. Try sending her a message asking about her. Try to get to know her. That'll work better than any poem. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dan10 Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 sorry but i didnt even read your poem and i have to say ABSOLUTELY POSITIVELY DO NOT SEND HER A POEM UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCE AT THIS POINT!!! this isnt true of everyone but girls tend to like to play the flirting game. if you tell them strait up that you like them the game is over and the girl has no interest in playing. if she thinks you might like her but isnt really sure then she gets invested in the game and you just need to keep playing right to win. but almost every girl i can think of will be scared off and intimidated (possibly think you are stalking her) if you send her a poem anything longer then, roses are red, violets are blue, you're kinda cute, and i'd like to get to know you. and even that is pushing the line pretty far. so short answer... dont send the poem. ask her how her day was instead. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1m50L0nl3y Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 This is WAY too deep for some random stranger you don't even know. If I were you I would keep it as a memory in my diary. Seriously man, leave the Romeo & Giulietta romantic poems to Shakespeare. If you want to date her approach her in the regular normal way... If you want to give her the poem then send it anonymously don't sign it, and you should never hint it came from you.. ever!. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
broghamzvatox Posted September 9, 2011 Author Share Posted September 9, 2011 ...I'm so glad I found this website. Screw the poem. I'll find some way to talk to her. But it's awfully difficult, she seems so conceited when she's quite (I'm the same way! )--It's the primary reason why I was afraid about how she would react (I'm assuming many people are afraid of how I will react if they speak to me). So, what if I get extremely nervous when I start speaking to her, and my second sentence just skips directly to the request to take her out to a date? Am I essentially screwed? I'll just practice the entire encounter in front of a mirror. Seriously, thanks a * * * * ing ton! Only after reading your comments did I realize what a terrible friggin' idea this would have been. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Deciduous Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Hi broghamzvatox, Beautiful poem by the way. Please don't send it though. Keep it for your private collection. It's too much too soon. Sounds like you are deliberately avoiding the task of mustering up your courage to win her over directly. You are trying to skip that tricky part. But that is your best shot. Presenting her with your personality gives her an idea of who you really are. Sending indirect communication in the form of a poem gives the impression that you aren't confident, and feel your basic personality is unworthy of her. You're unconsciously indicating you're not worth the time or converstational effort. Not a great signal to send at all. Let's face it. If this ended in a relationship is she really supposed to form a bond with your poetry or with you. You have to step up to the plate at some time, otherwise it all remains a fantasy. Isn't that what the poetry idea is? Keeping the romantic fantasy going without being hampered with the reality of personal interaction and possible rejection. Poetry at this stage also fosters the impression that you're in love with the idea of love and romance - and not her as an individual. Break the ice in person. Poetry can come way down the line. Good luck Deci Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abitbroken Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 That is the poem you give her after you have the courage to talk to her, date her, and then you give it to her when you have been together for years telling her you have a confession, that you wrote this when you first saw her. Then she will think it is sweet. But for now, you can publish it and not say who it is about if it gets picked up. But I would just use it as a creative outlet for now. Some girls are okay with sharing poetry if its not about them and they meet you on the basis of a lit class. I would be fine with getting poetry if its the guy I am dating who is giving it to me, but not a stranger unless he is writing poems about every passerby with a hat out for tips. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abitbroken Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 People seem conceited when they are actually nervous. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dan10 Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 ok read the poem and it is absolutely amazing except for one thing.... take out everything after "in this world nothing greater", save it on your computer or in a file somewhere, wait until you are ready to propose then come up with a way to end the poem with "will you marry me?" and you are set. mind if i steal it for when i decide to get married in 6 or 7 years when i meet someone? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lalalollipops Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 URGH no lol. It's creepy imo. A person that comes on so strong without even knowing the other person suggests things about their psyche imo. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
broghamzvatox Posted September 9, 2011 Author Share Posted September 9, 2011 ok read the poem and it is absolutely amazing except for one thing.... take out everything after "in this world nothing greater", save it on your computer or in a file somewhere, wait until you are ready to propose then come up with a way to end the poem with "will you marry me?" and you are set. mind if i steal it for when i decide to get married in 6 or 7 years when i meet someone? XD hahahaha I would sacrifice my ability to write if I could have even a fraction of the confidence of some of the guys in this forum. Nah, I don't mind. Do whatever the hell you want with it. Would it be a problem if I sent her a note requesting to talk to her after class? @lalalollipops I probably do have some problems. I'm pretty friggin' lonely. Just moved to the city about 4 months ago, lost touch with my friends of 8 years. I am probably suffering some psychological problems, but really all I want is someone to talk to and from what I can tell by just looking at her and hearing her speak, her sense of humor, I think we could get along. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Capricorn3 Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Imagine randomly receiving a poem from an individual you have spoken to for no more than 1 minute over the course of three weeks. It would freak me out completely! Yikes! Don't send it. It's the kind of thing one does when 13 years old in highschool (imo), lol. Keep the poem and if anything ever happens and you start dating her, then give it to her in a couple of years, lol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NCforME Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 XD hahahaha I would sacrifice my ability to write if I could have even a fraction of the confidence of some of the guys in this forum. Nah, I don't mind. Do whatever the hell you want with it. Would it be a problem if I sent her a note requesting to talk to her after class? How about you just say hello and ask her a question after class. No reason to make a deal of it. If she is attracted to you she will most likely talk back unless she is very shy girl then you'll have to pry a little. But, if she finds a reason to get away then its over don't bother her until she approaches you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
broghamzvatox Posted September 9, 2011 Author Share Posted September 9, 2011 How about you just say hello and ask her a question after class. No reason to make a deal of it. If she is attracted to you she will most likely talk back unless she is very shy girl then you'll have to pry a little. But, if she finds a reason to get away then its over don't bother her until she approaches you. I should have probably mentioned that she essentially runs away after class, so the only way for me to speak to her would be to run after her (which would be equally creepy) and tackle her down....or run after her and tap her on the shoulder, but that would also freak her out probably. Perhaps before class. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lalalollipops Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Yeah before class lol. Don't send that poem. You could however bring it out if you do end up dating her and it's the 2 year anniversary, but now? And anytime in the near future?? No! Lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NCforME Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 I should have probably mentioned that she essentially runs away after class, so the only way for me to speak to her would be to run after her (which would be equally creepy) and tackle her down....or run after her and tap her on the shoulder, but that would also freak her out probably. Perhaps before class. Does she happen to come early? Since you've met her now, how about you talk to her. Ask her a related question to something, anything. Most girls, if they are interested, all you have to do is bring up the weather. But better to ask something about her. Get to know her a little before you make any move. Let her know you want to know her. Otherwise it comes off like your trying to get in her pants. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
broghamzvatox Posted September 9, 2011 Author Share Posted September 9, 2011 Does she happen to come early? Since you've met her now, how about you talk to her. Ask her a related question to something, anything. Most girls, if they are interested, all you have to do is bring up the weather. But better to ask something about her. Get to know her a little before you make any move. Let her know you want to know her. Otherwise it comes off like your trying to get in her pants. Yeah, I just have to speak to her without thinking. The more I think before I encounter her the more hesitant I become. Shame I can't speak as well as I write. ...Imagine if I had actually given that poem to her...I'm beginning to freak myself out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tryptophan Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 You're overanalyzing things too much. Typical mind of the writer but I think simplicity is key if you want to approach someone. Nothing to complex and to the point. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tryptophan Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Too* Sorry for the double post --- ENA probation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1m50L0nl3y Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Yeah, I just have to speak to her without thinking. The more I think before I encounter her the more hesitant I become. Shame I can't speak as well as I write. You can practice having small talks with other females (cashiers, receptionists, customer service agents, store reps, etc). Until you feel comfortable initiating a talk with a stranger. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NCforME Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Yeah, I just have to speak to her without thinking. The more I think before I encounter her the more hesitant I become. Shame I can't speak as well as I write. ...Imagine if I had actually given that poem to her...I'm beginning to freak myself out. Is she on face book? Would you feel more comfortable befriending her on there first and asking her a question? That way the ice is a little more broken. But, I think talking to her before class is the best option. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
broghamzvatox Posted September 9, 2011 Author Share Posted September 9, 2011 You can practice having small talks with other females (cashiers, receptionists, customer service agents, store reps, etc). Until you feel comfortable initiating a talk with a stranger. Great idea! I'll do that! I already do speak to the individuals sitting around me in every other class except that one But now I'll consciously attempt to trigger conversations with people I otherwise would not speak (i'm saying this sh.it now, but we'll know in a few days whether I have the cojones to actually do it). Is she on face book? Would you feel more comfortable befriending her on there first and asking her a question? That way the ice is a little more broken. But, I think talking to her before class is the best option. No she doesn't have a facebook, (or maybe it's private?) but I like that fact. The only reason I even have a Facebook account was for a global social movement I was a part of a few months ago to coordinate activities. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1m50L0nl3y Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Great idea! I'll do that! I already do speak to the individuals sitting around me in every other class except that one But now I'll consciously attempt to trigger conversations with people I otherwise would not speak (i'm saying this sh.it now, but we'll know in a few days whether I have the cojones to actually do it). You really like her, so you will find los cojones to just get into her radar. Possitive thinking always, my friend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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