Normal for a shy guy?

[Dan Lyso]

I already posted about a breakup i've gone through but this more of a personal type question. Like i'm extremely shy, and like i feel like i make connections but alot of the times I just dont feel like trying or caring and just kinda let something walk into my path. Is that normal thing for a guy to be doing, or is it my heart telling me to just relax and give everything time? Or maybe could be my lack of interest with people sometime, dont know but sometimes it just makes me feel wweaird

[oldenoughtoknow]

Your mind can play lots of tricks on you. When you're shy, or introverted, you're anxious about talking to people. New people, especially. So your mind can make excuses for that, and tell you to not try or that you don't care. That's the path that gives you the least exposure and risk, and thereby the least anxiety. Don't go with your first reaction the next time you find yourself in the middle of one of those situations. Challenge it. Talk to yourself. Tell yourself you're willing to risk being vulnerable and anxious, and you want to try and care and make a connection. Slowly, you'll change your reaction and find yourself more open with people.