tommytoxen Posted September 8, 2011 Share Posted September 8, 2011 I find myself clinging onto my youth more and more lately. I turn 30 soon and it scares the HELL out of me, I don't wanna be old! I'm still a teen at heart, I missed out on my teens, being a Carer I had to give up college, was with the same girl from aged 13 right up to 21 where I gave up relationships full stop for 6 whole years. Now I'm living life to the full again, having more fun than I've ever had in my life, mostly thanks to my younger lover, but, i can still hear the clock ticking, can still see the calendar etching nearer and nearer towards 30. Sometimes I just drink myself silly to try and forget, I become bitter when people mention my birthday coming up, I warn people NOT to get me any cards or presents because I don't wanna celebrate another birthday. Is it normal to feel like this, do other older counterparts in AGRs feel this way? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DN Posted September 8, 2011 Share Posted September 8, 2011 Don't feel that at the age of 30 all of a sudden everything changes. You will still be the same person at 12.01 on your birthday as you were at 11.59 the previous day. It's attitude that matters not birthdays. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seraphim Posted September 8, 2011 Share Posted September 8, 2011 Don't feel that at the age of 30 all of a sudden everything changes. You will still be the same person at 12.01 on your birthday as you were at 11.59 the previous day. It's attitude that matters not birthdays. Yup. I do not worry so much about getting older cause I just get wiser. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kaytie Posted September 8, 2011 Share Posted September 8, 2011 Yup. I do not worry so much about getting older cause I just get wiser. So true! My partner says this all the time (she is 49 and 11.5 years older than I am) and I definitely know that to be true of myself. OP, it's not uncommon to question many things when turning 30, but trust me, that is still VERY young. My 'little' cousins are now around 30...freaks me right out! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tommytoxen Posted September 8, 2011 Author Share Posted September 8, 2011 I might as well put my bloody pipe and slippers on and wait for death now! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seraphim Posted September 8, 2011 Share Posted September 8, 2011 Nahh.... 30 is a kiddo still, really. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DN Posted September 8, 2011 Share Posted September 8, 2011 I might as well put my bloody pipe and slippers on and wait for death now!Jeez, you have a long wait then. I am 61 and don't feel like giving up yet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Unknown1607307972 Posted September 8, 2011 Share Posted September 8, 2011 I can relate and I am only 22 it's not that I find 22 old, it's just the upwards climb! I never wanted to physically age past 21! I insist that I will be turning 21 for a third time on my birthday this year (23 years old? Goodness no!). At least the elderly people in my life are awesome and fun, it's the silver lining to ageing, it doesn't mean you have to stop having fun and living your life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seraphim Posted September 8, 2011 Share Posted September 8, 2011 Jeez, you have a long wait then. I am 61 and don't feel like giving up yet. Exactly. I still feel 16 inside and I am almost 45. So I am 16 with 45 years experience. grandmother when she was 73 said she still felt 16 inside. It is all in your attitude. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kaytie Posted September 8, 2011 Share Posted September 8, 2011 I might as well put my bloody pipe and slippers on and wait for death now! Trust me, you will soon think 30 is very young....and it really is. It's an exciting time in your life when things are just beginning. Don't spend precious energy on worrying and wondering about 'what ifs' - instead live in the here and now and appreciate that you are young, healthy and have your whole life ahead of you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fudgie Posted September 8, 2011 Share Posted September 8, 2011 My ex was 38 years older than I was (we were together for years). I'm 21, btw, just to give you an age range. I didn't make him feel any older or younger according to him. His hair was falling out, skin wrinkling, and his joints hurt whether or not I was there. He had a lot of health problems so life was just more tough on him. I personally don't care too much about getting older. I can't stop it so why worry? Those who feel it will be a downward slide from then on are just going to make things worse with their attitude. Age is what you make of it. Stay healthy and keep yourself "young" in terms of your mind and doing things that you love, and you should be fine. I see a lot of older people who are out there enjoying life! I recently took care of a woman in hospice who, after her husband died when she was 80, she began going on cruise ships. CRUISE ships! She got a boyfriend, same age, who had a bit of money in retirement and the two just went on cruise ships, living it up, dancing all night, etc. When they got back home, they STILL went on dates and went out dancing, he's buying her roses, etc. She even had the video tapes to prove to me! LOL. Now THAT is the life. Hell, I'm 21 and I don't even live like that! She has since died but wow, what a life. She was happy and thus, I was happy to see that. You need to come to grips with your mortality sometime or it will eat you up alive. We are all going to die. We are all going to have our bodies fail us and sometime, those bodies are just going to break and we'll be gone. You ignoring the inevitable and pretending it won't happen, drink it away, and having a younger lover doesn't change a thing, really. By all means, enjoy it, but you'll have to face reality at some point. It's not such a bad thing. It's sobering. I did it years ago when I started hospice and started seeing a lot of people die and my life has improved since then in terms of how I see it. Once you realise that life is short, that's a good thing. You see that you don't want to waste time or spend time with people who don't matter. BTW, how old is your girlfriend? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tommytoxen Posted September 8, 2011 Author Share Posted September 8, 2011 17. and its not death that scares me, its just.. being old. losing out on everything. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fudgie Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 Who says you have to lose out on everything? What things are you worried about losing out on? If you're worried about your appearance, do your best to keep in shape and be healthy. If you want to still go out and drink and stuff, do that! No one says that you have to "grow up" and get all boring and miss out on things you want to do. Keep healthy and keep your money as free as possible and don't tie yourself down. If this means not having kids and you're cool with this, then do it. You don't even have to get married either. You're really only limited by what you want to do with yourself and the law, of course. But if you don't want to be a fuddy duddy, then you don't have to. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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