Flywest29 Posted September 8, 2011 Author Share Posted September 8, 2011 Yup that about sums it up. Reading it like that really makes me think * * * am I thinking? Just what I needed to read. Thanks Brownstone for taking the time to read my story and respond, I really appreciate it. I have always admired you on this board by the way, always giving solid advice. As for my situation I have no intention of responding to her and I am moving forward in my life. I needed this to happen and I feel like a weight is lifted off my shoulders. Link to comment
hausser Posted September 8, 2011 Share Posted September 8, 2011 Dude I too had a summer of hell. A summer of lonely days and lonlier nights. I then had a text 30 days NC very similiar to yours and I made the mistake of replying, having a phone conversation and generally getting suckered in. In keeping with the advice here. It ended. Badly. I say ignore it. If she really really wants to reach out you can be sure as hell she'll text again, which is another story. But, for the time being, definatley recommend ignoring it. Sure you'll think about it for a week or two, but if you respond and she blows you out again like mine did, it's like the metaphorical snake on a snakes and ladder board, you'll go alllllll the way back. Not replying to it will empower you. All the best and let us know how it goes. Link to comment
Brownstone322 Posted September 8, 2011 Share Posted September 8, 2011 Just what I needed to read. Thanks Brownstone for taking the time to read my story and respond, I really appreciate it. I have always admired you on this board by the way, always giving solid advice. I was hard on you, I know that, but, dammit, I can tell that she's a drug that you need to kick. Do not waver. She's bad news, and she'll wreck Other Guy's life too. You're still young; don't throw away some of your prime years pining for someone who's way too old to still be acting the way she is. Best of luck, as always. Link to comment
hausser Posted September 8, 2011 Share Posted September 8, 2011 Yeah and dude just to add my ex said "sorry" about an aspect of our relationship too. It's uncanny how after a few weeks/months on this forum the same themes re-emerge. Link to comment
Flywest29 Posted September 8, 2011 Author Share Posted September 8, 2011 I was hard on you, I know that, but, dammit, I can tell that she's a drug that you need to kick. Do not waver. She's bad news, and she'll wreck Other Guy's life too. You're still young; don't throw away some of your prime years pining for someone who's way too old to still be acting the way she is. Best of luck, as always. I appreciate the honesty and the directness of your advice. You're right it was like a drug addiction, and I am breaking it today. I can't explain or figure out why but I feel so much better today because of that text. It comes accross as desperate and pathetic and I know what she is all about and I feel sorry for her actually. Today has been a good day I feel like I can finally move on! Link to comment
wartorn Posted September 8, 2011 Share Posted September 8, 2011 So you respond politely and firmly. "Thanks for the kind words. Take care, and good luck." And ignore her henceforth. Link to comment
Bergk Posted September 9, 2011 Share Posted September 9, 2011 I'm glad to see you taking the advice on board. I didn't have much support or seek advice and responded to a text my ex sent - as I did miss her terribly, like you. In a sense it did make me happy that she missed me, you are not alone. We had irregular internet contact and I gave her support; attention, compliments, as well as taking added criticism for the break-up on the chin. I dealt/accepted drunken texts too - far too easily. After around 6 weeks she abruptly cut all communication and told me to never contact her, as apparently I was being malicious and guilt tripping her for ending our relationship. I was deeply upset. The progress I had made deteriorated very quickly. I learned a very tough lesson and would agree with "actions speak louder than words". Good luck. Link to comment
Flywest29 Posted September 9, 2011 Author Share Posted September 9, 2011 So you respond politely and firmly. "Thanks for the kind words. Take care, and good luck." And ignore her henceforth. I'm not giving her the satisfaction of a response she does not deserve a response after what she put me through. By responding I am letting her win, I think my silence will speak volumes to her about how I feel. It may be petty or juvenile but I don't care I am looking out for myself now. Link to comment
Flywest29 Posted September 9, 2011 Author Share Posted September 9, 2011 Wise choice. For sure..... Link to comment
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