itsmeiz Posted September 7, 2011 Share Posted September 7, 2011 after coming out of a long relationship and a terrible break-up, can me and my ex actually be friends? have any of you been successful with this? Long story short,my ex-girlfriend has been keeping in contact with me for the past couple of months (we still haven't hung out in person, we keep in touch through text/facebook/etc). we broke up over a year ago now. i had a VERY hard time getting over her and did all i could to keep her in the beginning. but after some long text messages from her that pretty much told me to go off, i did just that. i left her alone. deleted her from everything. stopped texting her completely. pretended she didn't exist. she had a new bf at that point, but she's now single. i am also single but i have no intention of being with her again, although i still love her very much and i WISH we could be together but i KNOW it's not possible and i accept that completely. i'm not even trying to pursue her. thing is, she texts me quite often and if i don't text her she asks why. i sometimes don't text her because i'm afraid of seeming "needy" or anything like that. i want her to know my life doesn't revolve around her, although we are close, she's not on my mind constantly(that's what i want her to think at least). she refers to me as her "bff" (her texts always begin with "heyy bff!!") and is very nice to me, we get along great just like we did when we met. i see her as a good friend now, i genuinely enjoy her company and i've missed our friendship. she even told me she felt really bad about the way she treated me after our breakup and also apologized for everything that happened. i mean, is this good or bad? is it okay for me to pursue this friendship or not? Anyone out there in a similar situation? Link to comment
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