How do you deal with your feelings?

[lalarose]

Hi,

I've been in a LDR for 2 months now when I met him on vacation.We had a lot of chemistry. He is 26, i am 19. We continued talking on skype and it was really intense like we really missed each other. I went back there for a weekend after only talking on skype for 1 month and we got even more attached... Then I had to leave again and go back home. He plans on coming in 2 months but it's sooo hard to sleep with him and cuddle and then just be alone at home... He never was in a serious relationship with a younger girl and he's scared that i'll change because i'm young..

Did it happen to you? And how do you deal with those feelings? People told me to not be attached because it's a LDR and I can find someone near me and more my age but we have so much chemistry!!!!

 

What do you think?

[indesign]

I met someone abroad and we both new we would eventually have to move back to our home states. I asked for 2 months space to see if we were meant for eachother and after that I moved to his city to be with him.

[OptomisticGirl]

Yes, your feeligns (at your age) may very well change. Mine did drastically between the ages of 16-21. I'm in a 4,000 mile LDR and there is no way I could have done this at 16. Just no way.

[lalarose]

Yes, your feeligns (at your age) may very well change. Mine did drastically between the ages of 16-21. I'm in a 4,000 mile LDR and there is no way I could have done this at 16. Just no way.

 

okay yea i understand but i'm pretty mature and I do love him..

[OptomisticGirl]

okay yea i understand but i'm pretty mature and I do love him..

 

Sometimes love just isn't enough, especially when an age gap AND a LDR are involved. They are 2 totally different monsters. Two months in your still in the honeymoon phase - everything is roses and sunshine, it's not always going to be that way and the strains of an LDR are HUGE. I just think you should go into this with an open mind.

[chitown9]

Sometimes love just isn't enough, especially when an age gap AND a LDR are involved. They are 2 totally different monsters. Two months in your still in the honeymoon phase - everything is roses and sunshine, it's not always going to be that way and the strains of an LDR are HUGE. I just think you should go into this with an open mind.

 

^The above is very true. And unfortunately, love does not conquor all...

[lalarose]

Sometimes love just isn't enough, especially when an age gap AND a LDR are involved. They are 2 totally different monsters. Two months in your still in the honeymoon phase - everything is roses and sunshine, it's not always going to be that way and the strains of an LDR are HUGE. I just think you should go into this with an open mind.

 

Yea I thought about it and I am going into this with an open mind but he plans on coming in my country for 1 year to see how it goes.. so then i know he's making the effort! Also, i planned on maybe moving in 1 year when im done with school, to his country for my career so i think that it's going well for now!

[OptomisticGirl]

Just remember anything can change, at any point, especially where he and you both are in your lives. And you are juggling 2 massive relationship monsters. Doesn't mean it can't work, but it's not going to be smooth sailing.

[sjjohnson89]

Love does not conquer all no, well, not on its own. Love instead drives you to do things, go to extents that you wouldnt without that drive. When love doesnt conquer say distance, the reason is, the love wasnt strong enough to push you the distance. Thats part of the big test in a long distance relationship, it tests your connection together. Think of it as being joined at the hip with string, a LDR truly tests how strong that piece of string is.