The Wedding Shoe Game

[Huntress0527]

Has anyone ever done this? Our DJ had suggested it and my fiance and I think this would be a fun thing to do given the nature of our personalities. It would definitely be a lot of laughs.

 

Funny or cheesy, what do you think?

 

Below are the basic rules:

 

This is a great ice breaker, and gets everyone involved.

 

Set two chairs back to back in the middle of the dance floor.

 

Ask the bridal party to stand about 10' in front of the chairs... brides maids/maid of honor on one side and groomsmen/best man on the other.

 

Have the bride sit in the chair facing her bridesmaids...then have the groom remove both of the brides shoes.

 

Have the groom then sit in the other chair facing his groomsmen and remove both of his shoes as well

 

Trade one shoe each so both the bride and groom have one of each of their shoes.

 

Now you will announce "This game is to show how much the new Mr./Mrs. John and Jane Doe really know about each other... I will ask you a question and you raise the shoe that you think best fits the answer to the question... alright here's a practice question..."Right now, who has the most cash on them?"

 

Sometimes you'll see some great hesitation faces like their really not sure, or even better when you ask a question like... "Who wears the pants in the family"... Sometimes the bride will put up her shoe, and the groom will put up his. It's hilarious. You'll get high fives, and the families laughing.

 

 

BETWEEN THE TWO OF YOU:

 

 

 

-who is the biggest flirt

-who made the first move

-who's the better cook

-who said "I LOVE YOU" first

-who has the wackiest family

-who's the better driver

-who's the faster driver

-who spends the most time in front of a mirror

-who is in control of the checkbook

-who is most likely to eat dessert for breakfast

-who wears the pants in the family

-who is in charge of the remote

-who spends the most time getting ready to go out

-who will be doing most of the yard work

-if you haven't already... who is most likely to pass gas in front of the other first

-now that you're married, who will be the first to say... "not tonight"

-who's the better kisser

-who will be the first to fall asleep tonight

-who has the smelliest feet

-who steals the cover's more

-who popped the question

-who says "I love you" the most in one day

-who talks more

-who's most likely to use up all the hot water

-who's most likely to get lost

-who's most likely to ask for directions

-who's the 1st one to make up after a fight

-who's the one that started the fight in the first place

-who's the most likely to wake up grumpy in the morning

-who's most likely to wake up with a hangover in the morning

-who's most likely to be running late

-who spends more money

(always ask this next question last)

-and finally... Who do you love the most in the whole wide world...

 

"There you go ladies and gentlemen, now you know who know's who the most"

[DN]

It could be fun but I can see it going badly wrong as well.

[annie24]

it seems......... weird....

[OptomisticGirl]

^ I agree. I can honeslty say I have never heard of it but it has the potential to being fun. The only area I can see a problem evolving like DN said is when it comes to what kind of questions are asked.

[hers]

i saw this on a wedding show once and it looked like fun. my sister went to a wedding where they did this and she said it was great and definitely a good ice breaker. the groom had a very conservative foreign family and it got everyone laughing. i wish we had tried it, considering our wedding was the most boring ever adn this may have been a little fun.

[Huntress0527]

i saw this on a wedding show once and it looked like fun. my sister went to a wedding where they did this and she said it was great and definitely a good ice breaker. the groom had a very conservative foreign family and it got everyone laughing. i wish we had tried it, considering our wedding was the most boring ever adn this may have been a little fun.

 

This is what I'm thinking. I hadn't heard of it until my fiance said our DJ asked if we would like to have it at our wedding. I think that if you're the type that can't poke fun at yourself and laugh it can be a recipe for trouble.

[hers]

there'd be some questions i wouldn't let him ask, like the passing the gas or the wearing the pants or anything involving the families or sex. but all others don't look too bad.

[OptomisticGirl]

there'd be some questions i wouldn't let him ask, like the passing the gas or the wearing the pants or anything involving the families or sex. but all others don't look too bad.

 

I agree. You kind of have to mold the questions around what the couple feels comfortable with. Like while L and I can poke fun at each other, there wouldn't be any sexual questions.

[DN]

It's not just a question of being able to laugh at yourself but of someone getting hurt through misunderstandings. I can see a real potential for trouble with such questions as:

 

- who is in charge of the checkbook?

-who wears the pants in the family?

- who's the one that started the fight in the first place

-who's the most likely to wake up grumpy in the morning

-who spends more money

 

I agree the questions should be vetted.

[Huntress0527]

I see your point, DN. I do believe it boils down to the personality of the couple and what they are comfortable with and also their audience.

 

I would love to hear from someone who actually done it and whether or not it was a positive or negative experience.

[jenny_mcs]

This is at the reception?

 

Personally, by the time I sit through a wedding ceremony, then go to the reception and sit through toasts and cake-cutting and bouquet tossing and first dances and all the other organized stuff, the last thing I want is one more organized activity. I want to have a few drinks and eat chit chat and dance.

[annie24]

It's not just a question of being able to laugh at yourself but of someone getting hurt through misunderstandings. I can see a real potential for trouble with such questions as:

 

- who is in charge of the checkbook?

-who wears the pants in the family?

- who's the one that started the fight in the first place

-who's the most likely to wake up grumpy in the morning

-who spends more money

 

I agree the questions should be vetted.

 

yeah, i also see a large potential for problems if some of the questions are things that the couple disagrees on - could be an uncomfortable conversation over dinner like, 'what did you mean when you said I was more likely to......?'

 

I've never actually been to a wedding where i've seen this done. i don't think it would go over well in my family, personally.

[hers]

I'm sure the questions would be agreed on upon with the dj first

[DN]

Sometimes you'll see some great hesitation faces like their really not sure, or even better when you ask a question like..

^apparently not.

[_Asti_]

This is very popular where I am from! I have seen it done quite a bit! Its certainly entertaining.

 

My DJ kept us entertained all night. He suggested many things, and we just went with it. Many people commented on how nice it was, and how he kept things flowing, and people entertained.

 

I think you need to have a good sense of humour about it, and realize that its all in good fun. If you think it would create problems, then don't do it. Or maybe agree upon certain questions before hand. Its entertainment...you may answer to make people laugh..I wouldn't take anything seriously if my guy and I did that.

[abitbroken]

I think this is more appropriate for a his n hers shower than a wedding reception.

 

At a wedding reception, I think this would be great in lieu of the garter toss, etc. I think it would be funny though to also ask the questions to the grandparents or the couple married the longest out of the family. Obviously, some questions would be skipped or changed to "when you were first married," but it would be great fun if mom and dad or grandpa and grandma had a sense of humor, and maybe add a question in there where the grandparents or great-aunt and uncle could give some wisdom to the bride and groom.

[Huntress0527]

This is very popular where I am from! I have seen it done quite a bit! Its certainly entertaining.

 

My DJ kept us entertained all night. He suggested many things, and we just went with it. Many people commented on how nice it was, and how he kept things flowing, and people entertained.

 

I think you need to have a good sense of humour about it, and realize that its all in good fun. If you think it would create problems, then don't do it. Or maybe agree upon certain questions before hand. Its entertainment...you may answer to make people laugh..I wouldn't take anything seriously if my guy and I did that.

 

This is what I'm thinking. My fiance was excited when he told me about it and I my first reaction was what fun! We decided that we are going to have it if time permits. Thanks, all!

[tattoobunnie]

All the most fun weddings I've been to have games! And it's tradition to have them in my culture. My wedding is Dec 10th, and we're having the one where the groom is blindfolded and all these people have to slap him/or kiss him (haven't decided) and he has to guess which one is his wife. hahahhaha! And there's other stuff...it's just goofy and cute.

 

And congrats!!!

[Huntress0527]

All the most fun weddings I've been to have games! And it's tradition to have them in my culture. My wedding is Dec 10th, and we're having the one where the groom is blindfolded and all these people have to slap him/or kiss him (haven't decided) and he has to guess which one is his wife. hahahhaha! And there's other stuff...it's just goofy and cute.

 

And congrats!!!

 

Haha that's awesome! If it was me I'd probably slap him.

 

And thank you!

[DN]

"People have to slap him or kiss him" - seriously? People actually slap him?

 

Nice.

[Huntress0527]

I'm sure it's just playful.

[DN]

Oh sure, and let's face it, domestic violence is always fun - depending on who the victim is of course.

[Huntress0527]

Now let's not get too serious here, we aren't speaking of malicious intent to harm.

[OptomisticGirl]

Oh sure, and let's face it, domestic violence is always fun - depending on who the victim is of course.

 

I think it's more of a cultural difference, DN. In a playful game - whatever kind of game it is - I see nothing wrong with it but I don't even have to ask L if he would or not - I know he would.

[DN]

Now let's not get too serious here, we aren't speaking of malicious intent to harm.

Slapping someone isn't a joke. I don't care about cultural differences - let's not go down that road because then we can talk about cultural acceptance of violence against women.

 

This is in the same area as 'playful' advertisements that show women slapping men and how funny that is. Well, it isn't funny when anyone gets slapped and presenting it as some sort of game doesn't make it right.

 

What that game is doing is saying that a man had better get used to being kissed or slapped by his wife - as if that is normal and natural.

 

I am so tired of being told to 'lighten up' and 'get a sense of humour' when it comes to violence against men. It isn't acceptable in any form against women and it shouldn't be against men either - in any culture, real or in 'fun'.