hopefloats310 Posted September 5, 2011 Share Posted September 5, 2011 Hello, everyone. I'm a long-time lurker and first-time poster on a relationship forum. This feels a little awkward, so I appreciate your patience and gentle guidance. I'm sure you've all heard a similar story before, so I won't go into the long details. The short story is this: I am quite smitten with a guy who has a girlfriend of 6 months. The mutual attraction between us is undeniable. We flirt like crazy with a lot of sexually suggestive comments, which hint that he wants to or would be willing to cheat. He has joked that we could be "secret lovers," which makes me think he wants to set me up as a side dish. He has asked me out to lunch, and offered to make me dinner as "a date." I believe based on certain facts that he's trying to hide our flirtation from his girlfriend. However, I do not understand why, if he's unhappy enough in his relationship that he's looking outside of it already after only 6 months, he wouldn't just breakup with her. I have told him that nothing sexual will happen between us so long as he is in a relationship with someone else, and don't want to be treated like a dirty little secret. In response, he told me, "I ought to cool it until I'm in a different position." When I asked him what that meant, he didn't respond. However, he continues to engage me in mild chit-chat, but all sexually suggestive comments have ceased. What do you think he meant by "until I'm in a different position"? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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