How Quit gaming and find new circle of friends?

[mendelpalace]

So for years I've had a close knit group of friends. All we do is sit around and play online games. I use the term "Friends" loosely but they're all I've got. We're not even nice to each other, we're constantly belitting each other, yelling, and generally being mean-spirited with the occasionaly glimmer of humor. I'm addicted to this one particular game. I saw another thread in this forum about online gaming addicition. It's real and disgusting. I hate this game so much and yet I play it every moment I'm not working. All I do is make my numbers bigger than other peoples numbers. I don't want that. I WANNA LIVE LIFE but I don't know what to do. I don't know ANYone else. My mean-spirited gaming friends are all I have. They're just like me, ugly out casts of society, forever doomed to plague the earth with our festering.

 

I've tried to do what normal people do. But I just can't stomach half that stuff. I went to a club last night. How can people enjoy this. Music killing your ear drums, drunks everywhere ppl not even dancing just grinding into anything with a pulse. Same goes with parties and the like, it's boring and pointless as F** just a bunch of loud mouth alpha * * * * * s going HOROAHR and a bunch of tittering females going TEEHEE and I don't see the appeal at all. I want happy friends, who'll life me up when I'm down, but theres no genuine happy ppl, just conservative alpha * * * * * s and awkward pessimisstic nobodys. I don't have any other hobbies. My attention span is shot so I can't read, even if I wanted to considering the lack of anything good. I just wish I could unleash myself from this time sink I call my life. I wish I had a goal, a passion, something to drive me.

 

W/e I've rambled enough. TL;DR I need new, happy friends, where find them?

[Snowy]

Work place?

 

Do you not have a job?

[Perrin83]

I hope you didn't go to 4chan for advice first...they're not exactly helpful.

 

You say you don't have any other hobbies. Go get one. It isn't hard. Give a family member your game login and have them close the account.

 

You have all the control in the situation. You just need some willpower.

[mendelpalace]

I do have a job. Data entry. Whoop de do.

[Furtive]

...creeps in...probably my thread.

 

Slow and steady as she goes bro, slow and steady. I've been making a lot of life changes before I even made my post here. Working out, dating sites, etc.

 

If you want to meet some people that are fun and interesting, find a group on something like link removed ...

 

Though clubs and crap are boring, there are certain things like coming up in the Twin Cities is the zombie pub crawl, that should be new and exciting.

 

I can't really give advice though, obviously. Hahaha. link removed

[Sim54]

Be the person you want to attract. Do you think happy go lucky people are going to want to hang around with a guy who puts everyone around him down, and spends his life playing games? Would YOU want to spend time with someone like that?

Change your life, it's yours and no-one else's.

Clubs DO suck, and parties often as well, but depends who's there.

 

Change your life, one step at a time, get out of that stinking comfort zone, and challenge yourself, and if it hurts, then GOOD, it's supposed to.

 

And remember, only boring people are bored with their lives.

Do something, and stop whining about how crap it all is, because YOU made it crap.

 

Pull yourself together and get on with it.

[In the Dark]

Have any other interests?

Do you have a creative side for instance?

 

I can see your occupation will not be the talk of the party so try and dabble in something else.

Maybe you could get into music by using your computer?

Maybe join up with a band as a programmer?

 

I too am not a clubbing person since I get into fights in such places frequently when I go which is pretty much never nowadays.

Just my presence seems to rub guys the wrong way.

[Sim54]

Have any other interests?

Do you have a creative side for instance?

 

I can see your occupation will not be the talk of the party so try and dabble in something else.

Maybe you could get into music by using your computer?

Maybe join up with a band as a programmer?

 

I too am not a clubbing person since I get into fights in such places frequently when I go which is pretty much never nowadays.

Just my presence seems to rub guys the wrong way.

 

Why do you think that is?

[In the Dark]

Why do you think that is?

 

Often when I have gone I have been with female friends and occasion a partner.

I often I get talked down to in some attempt to look impressive in front of my partner or friends and well.

I have really low tolerance to that kind of behavior and I don't ever back down.

One thing leads to the next and out the door we go.

It may also be due to the fact I look quite out of place in clubs s i don't dress up to the nines in whatever is supposed to be cool to wear at the clubs.

[bulletproof]

I want happy friends, who'll life me up when I'm down, but theres no genuine happy ppl, just conservative alpha * * * * * s and awkward pessimisstic nobodys.

 

I notice that you want some new happy friends for what they can do for you. They are not simply going to save you. You will need to bring something to the relationship, too.

 

You will have to start by addressing the gaming addiction first. The suggestion of changing the password was a good one. Then start using the internet to research things like meetups, volunteer opportunities, etc. Get out of your house and out of your comfort zone. And remember that like attracts like, and happy, positive people will not be attracted to you if you hate yourself and think poorly of other people (like the ones you described at clubs and parties).