So confused...

[dr_loomis7]

As the title signifies, I am so confused over what has happened over the course of a week between a lady I met online and myself. I have an admitted tendency to over-analyze things but I'm not sure if that is what I am doing in this situation. Here's the store:

 

I am 30 years old and am a member of a few sites. I received an email on POF the other day from a 38 year old woman. She mentioned how much we had in common but lamented the fact she was older than I. I responded and told her that I preferred to date older women and if it wasn't a problem for her, it certainly wasn't one for me and I'd like to get to know her more. We exchanged a few emails over the next couple of days. Then we started chatting on the POF chat service.

 

She said things like how much she liked me, how we were alike, she invited me over to her house for a house warming party and gave me her phone number (which she assured me she never does online). I sent her a text with my number and we talked a little bit longer. The next day I found out that the previous night she had been drinking while we were chatting. I asked how much was her and how much was the alcohol. She informed it was all her except for one text at the end of the night.

 

Throughout the week, I would text her and we'd have short texting sessions. Since things seemed to be going well, I asked if I could call her after her kids went to bed. She said that was fine, I could call the next night. I responded I would be out and it would be later that I called, which she was ok with.

 

So last night I tried to call her...no answer. I texted and asked if it was too late...this morning no response. I saw her online and tried to chat with her...no response or she had disconnected before I tried to connect. She also updated her profile to note that she does not usually make the first move, she wasn't after sex and she didn't consider herself "experienced". I'm really confused over this and what would have caused this behavior. I'm also wondering if I should send one last email explaining that I am not about sex and really thought we clicked.

 

So ENA, what are your thoughts? Am I being neurotic again?

[Princess123]

First off that must be a common line. Oh I don't give my number out to just anyone.

 

Seems like an emotional unstable lady. Ha really? There are numerous possibilities. But if she doesn't respond after 1 thing whether its e-mail, text, or call then don't make any more moves. You don't want to end up acting like a beggar for her attention.

[Timahani]

Hello Dr. Loomis, my thoughts for today can be summed up in one word patience. Sometimes it takes women time to warm up to men, and to open up about their true feelings. Do not assume that she thinks that you are all about sex...WAIT until that subject comes up in your conversation with her and then discuss your philosophy concerning sexual/physical intimacy...

 

More importantly, believe in yourself. Know that you were born with unique strengths and qualities that make you who you are today. Illuminate your qualities with a little patience and that "innate" light in which God has ingrafted in your soul...will attract that special someone (whoever that may be) to you. Eventually,......................... if you faint not on your journey to finding love..... Both you and your soul mate, will be the light forces that illuminate this world. God Bless you :star:

[Voguester]

I don't believe that...If a woman really likes a guy then she will of course answer his calls or texts and not keep them hanging. One exception to this is maybe she was infact busy, she is a mom and has her own life going on. If I were you I would not try to contact her any further and wait for her to come to you, if she doesn't then you know she isn't really interested and you can move on.

[dr_loomis7]

Unfortunately, I didn't follow everyone's advice, although I knew you were right. My thought was if she was busy fine, if she's not interested anymore, it won't matter. It was the second thing. I decided to write a last email. She replied that she was sorry she missed my call but she had been very busy (I love this one) with house repairs. Then starts to list everything she had been working on, even the cost. My first two thoughts are: what contractor comes to work at your house at 9pm and two you were so busy you couldn't respond to my text to tell me you were busy, but you can be online multiple times a day?

 

I have my answer, so I told her that she has my number, deleted hers from my phone and left it at that.

 

I guess I knew what was going on but I'm more confused over why she seemed so into me one night, then nothing the next. She also made herself out to be a very upfront, always honest person so I was expecting to be told the truth. I really hate this dating game, time to join a monastery.