imwithyou Posted September 2, 2011 Share Posted September 2, 2011 I've been with my bf for 3 years and recently we got into the conversation of years to come which then lead to marriage. I always avoid this with him as i know it makes him uncomfortable, it's not that i want to get married right now but i would like to know where our relationship is going and he ended up saying to me how he would like to explore his options meaning that i most likely wouldnt be the girl he will marry. He could see this made me upset (tho i was suprisingly calm about it) and after we talked he apologised and said he didnt know why he said that, but then why would a guy say that if he didnt mean it? isn't it if your with a girl for so many years and you loved her you wouldnt be thinking about being with someone else? im really confused if i should stay with him or not. i guess i sort of feel that im wasting my time being with someone who i think doesnt want to be with me as i would like to be with someone for a few years before getting married and i was hoping to before hitting 30 (im 24 now), but then in saying that i also see it that he has been good to me and taught me a lot of things and helped me deal with situations better so in some ways he has made me a stronger person and vise versa, but maybe thats all we're ever meant for, i really dont know. its just what he said is really weighing over me and im so confused. He has never told me he loves me and he never holds my hand or be affectionate in public and he always looks at other girls when we're out though i dont care about that as much as i used to, after all he is a boy. maybe i am just one of those girls who watches too many love stories. We havent talked about our conversation since but he has been doing things that shows he is sorry but i just dont know what to do, i dont want to force him to be with me, i just dont get why he doesnt break up with me if im not what he's looking for. i want to be with him, not just to get married but because of the person he is and what we have shared together, its really hard to let that go, i was heartbroken by my first boyfriend and for it to happen again now with a guy that means even more to me is really hard. I'm not asking for someone to tell me to break up with him or not, i guess just any advice on the situation to help guide me in the right direction. Link to comment
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