stuka80 Posted September 2, 2011 Share Posted September 2, 2011 I dont really know where to begin, i guess the beginning is the best place to start. A woman recently started working at a company i work for probably 3-4 months ago. I never really took notice of her although before that when i did pass by her i thought she was very attractive but kind of as an afterthought, i barely noticed her. My first real contact with her was when we happened to have the same lunchtime in the breakroom about a month ago. I normally go out for lunch but this time decided to pack a lunch. I was sitting there with another co-worker when she comes and sits on our table and starts chatting with said co-worker, i guess they were friends. Then she offers me half of her sandwhich at which point i refused politely because i had already eaten, but she really seemed to insist so i went ahead and took the sandwhich and even though i was full, i forced myself to eat that sandwhich because i did not want to seem rude and the 3 of us did some light chatting for the rest of the lunchtime. So anyway later that day i was walking and i happened to pass by her and i nodded my head to her in acknowledgement and she to me, then as she passed me i noticed from the corner of my eye that she looked back at me, so i turned to look at her and she was just staring at me smiling as we both were walking away. That's when i realized she was attracted to me, everything fell into place like in the movies, previous to that i had noticed her glances and looks towards me but never really gave it a second thought. And i also realized that i was interested and attracted to her. So the next couple of weeks i started spending my lunchtime in the breakroom in order to talk to her, she's generally quiet and somewhat shy but she's intelligent and over the week or so i started to really become infatuated with her and her with me. I just wanted to make it clear that we did not flirt with each other at all and all of our chats were very light and more the getting to know each other type of chats but every time we talk to each other theres a very strong tension of attraction between the two of us and i've noticed that whenever we're working or i'm helping her out on something we catch each other staring at each other for what seems like an awkwardly long time. So as the days go by i asked one of my co-workers who was her friend outside of work about her and to my great disappointment i find out that she is married. She's exactly my type, very composed and somewhat quiet but smart.(i hate loud, flamboyant, flashy, aggressive women) and she's the first one i've actually felt a strong attraction to since my ex 2 years ago.(i have not been with any woman intimately since then nor gone on a single date) I already know i dont want to cross that line. we happened to have each other's phone numbers for business purposes and have called and texted each other a few times but it was always just about business and both our texts and calls are short and to the point. But i have a feeling that it's only that way because i have not pushed it. I have a very strong feeling that if i cross the line between business and pleasure that she would not object and would follow suit. But what i want to do now is basically make myself scarce around her and avoid her as much as i possibly can. However i'm finding it very difficult to do so. Everytime she's around she would just stare at me and give me this beautiful smile all the time...i'm pissed at myself for falling for her as quickly as i did...When i'm not at work i find myself thinking about her constantly and while at work i'm always on the lookout in case i catch a glimpse of her... I didnt ask her anything about her husband or her marriage situation because i did not feel it was right for me to ask, especially for my own selfish reasons. She could be miserable for all i know due to her husband being horrible or her husband could be the best husband in the world but i just feel it's completely wrong to pursue her despite my very strong feelings for the very simple reason that she is married. So for the last week or so i've been doing as i said and avoiding her but it's very hard and i dont know how long my head can keep my emotions at bay... I guess i just want reassurances from people wiser than me that i am doing the right thing and that getting involved with her is a very bad train wreck waiting to happen. Any advice on how to get rid of a very strong infatuation?? Any help is much appreciated. Link to comment
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