On a "Relationship Break" Please help ...

[ineedhelppleas]

Me and my gf have been on a relationship break for a little bit over a week now.

 

 

We still had some contact, she told me she loved me couldnt live without me ect ect I told her the same. Then the next days she just would not contact me so her signs seemed confusing.

 

 

I have now written her telling her that it was the last message i would write because no matter how much we say the I love you stuff it doesnt change the situation.

 

I told her i loved her, and missed her, i wouldnt write her anymore. I told her when she was ready, we could talk about it. (hopefully she knows that means the relationship)

 

 

and now im planning on starting a real no contact.

 

 

did i make a mistake with sending her this message?

 

also

 

do you all think this method will actually work?

[solong123]

I think there is nothing wrong with you sending that message. If you didn't send it, you'd drive yourself crazy wanting to say something.

But honestly the ball is in her court now. Do not text her again. If she wants to speak to you, trust me she will contact you.

 

And by this method working what do you hope to accomplish? To win her back? Or to start healing?

I wouldn't go into this assuming she will sit there and be missing you wondering what you're doing and want you back.

You need to take this time to focus on yourself, hang out with your friends, enjoy things you weren't able to do while together.

[ineedhelppleas]

I think there is nothing wrong with you sending that message. If you didn't send it, you'd drive yourself crazy wanting to say something.

But honestly the ball is in her court now. Do not text her again. If she wants to speak to you, trust me she will contact you.

 

And by this method working what do you hope to accomplish? To win her back? Or to start healing?

I wouldn't go into this assuming she will sit there and be missing you wondering what you're doing and want you back.

You need to take this time to focus on yourself, hang out with your friends, enjoy things you weren't able to do while together.

 

 

Thank you for that response. I definitely felt I had to send it before going nuts. I am planning on wining her back, with how she talks to me when we do talk even on this "break" she seems like she really wants it to work too but is just not really ready yet with all the new stress in her life. i understand that, but

im also hoping that me backing off will somewhat ...if not of course have her miss me 24/7, have her at least reconsider a bit..

 

 

but i do agree i need to find and focus on myself again while i do this no contact.

[solong123]

If nothing really serious went down, then I see her coming around eventually. So don't stress about too much.

Just give her the space, and everything will work out as it should.

[ineedhelppleas]

Thank you for the response again.

[delicous]

The best thing to do for you is to give her her space and also learn to like having space for yourself. I would try to get into something you like, like working out more often, learning a new language, taking some classes...fill your schedule up, thats what Im trying to do myself and I am the one who broke up with him....But I seriously feel like hes the dumper since he

has made no attempts to contact me unless I contacted him first...Its driving me absolutly nuts too...

 

But , I did what ur trying to do and it worked...Unfortunetly, i still ended it with him do to many problems forming...The love may come back, but the problems unfortunetly don't fix themselves no matter how much space is given...Good luck hun!