For those who dumped your ex for a new guy

[louisxiv1987]

I heard that the ex doesn't even cross the mind of the dump since you are so involved with the new guy. How true is this? Do you still think about the ex?

[im_the_undead]

only when the new guy is messing up.

 

i wouldn't suggest you hop from one S.O to the next, though... rebounds aren't necessarily the best way to heal over a broken relationship.

when they are successful, it's wonderful.. but when they aren't, that's two heart-breaks, one right after another... four counting the possible other two broken hearts which don't include your own.

 

tough stuff. good luck!

[Deejmonster]

if your ex partner ever loved you or you ever meant even an ounce of anything to them, the truth is.. they think of you.. a lot.. but even though they think of you it doesn't change the things that broke you two up. If they love you, and they want to be with you, and the problems that broke you up are fixable, then chances are that you two will be back together at some point. Love can do so much, but if things can't change, its never going to work.

[SorrowandPain]

I heard that the ex doesn't even cross the mind of the dump since you are so involved with the new guy. How true is this? Do you still think about the ex?

 

I presume your assumption is true. It's difficult to intuit what the other person is thinking but in my case, I'm pretty sure my ex doesn't care at all. She started seeing this guy right after dumping me and for the first few weeks, I accessed her facebook and she seemed REALLY into the new guy as if I didn't even exist at all. It also seems like she's calling him everything that she called me and is doing everything with him that she never was able to do with me. I would guess this is normal behaviour especially in people who are co-dependent.

[SorrowandPain]

if your ex partner ever loved you or you ever meant even an ounce of anything to them, the truth is.. they think of you.. a lot.. but even though they think of you it doesn't change the things that broke you two up. If they love you, and they want to be with you, and the problems that broke you up are fixable, then chances are that you two will be back together at some point. Love can do so much, but if things can't change, its never going to work.

 

I'm not sure if I agree with this especially if the ex is in a quick rebound relationship.

[abandoned]

its possible you think your ex more! jumping in to a new relationship.People who jump fast in the next relationship, cant help to compare every little detail, thus you think of your ex even more!

[SorrowandPain]

its possible you think your ex more! jumping in to a new relationship.People who jump fast in the next relationship, cant help to compare every little detail, thus you think of your ex even more!

 

Well, maybe we should qualify OP's post and ask if the ex will think about the dumpee POSITIVELY rather than "oh man this new guy is so much better than my ex in so many ways."

[abandoned]

Well, maybe we should qualify OP's post and ask if the ex will think about the dumpee POSITIVELY rather than "oh man this new guy is so much better than my ex in so many ways."

for how long?

[ineedhelppleas]

of course id say you think of your ex, specially with a rebound type thing. Always comparing the new guy to the ex.. what the ex was better or worse at.

Depending on the situation it can be constant until a certain point.

[EmmaB78]

I think there is a difference between leaving a guy for someone else and leaving a guy and then jumping into a new relationship. I've done both (!), and I will say that in the first scenario, I didn't think of the guy I left until things soured with the new guy. In fact, it took me YEARS to realize what I'd lost, at which point I never would have tried to get it back. In the latter situation, I thought about the ex ALL THE TIME, and it pretty much ruined the new relationship.

 

Btw, louisxiv - LOVE the name - the sun king is my very favorite king!

[triangles]

I heard that the ex doesn't even cross the mind of the dump since you are so involved with the new guy. How true is this? Do you still think about the ex?

 

Sure I thought of him. Absolutely! I just didn't feel attraction for him anymore, and I didn't want to date him anymore. In fact, I still think of them. They were a part of my life. I'm just not in a romantic relationship with any of them.

 

I'm sorry if this sounds blunt...I don't mean it to be. I'm just giving you an honest answer to your question.