Will this story have a happy ending? My ex cheated with his gf with me..

[solimar45]

Hey! Sooo heres the long story in a brief

 

Me and my ex had been together for 3 years, i had to move away to study and we needed to continue a long distance relationship which didnt work since we were fighting a lot and i met a guy and i felt something and i needed to know what it was, so i broke u with him (I know, im kinda the jerk in the story.. maybe.. idk..) Anyways, i broke up with him because i didn't wanted to cheat with him, since we both didn't like that since forever, anyways, i went out with this guy and when i figured out that i really loved my ex, i figured out i was pregnant, so I told him and he wanted me back but I needed to give this other guy a chance to at least tell my baby that i did try it with the daddy, so i didnt think of my happiness and i went back with the daddy and it was the worst year of my life, good moments, but very bad memories, specially since i was in love with my ex, so i left the daddy, got on my own and started to talk to my ex but he was meeting someone, but he still loved me, we talked and talked and if we talked for 10 min, in those 10 min, that girl called him like 7 times (NO JOKING!) so she was there, i wasnt, so she wiped him and ended up with her, we didnt talk for like 1 year (some short emails, but that was it) I got back and I saw him, my world fell on the floor, my eyes were sparkling like crazy, he was shaking, looking at me, looking somewhere else, he did NOT wanted to look into my eyes for nothing!. But he was still with her, every time we got to talk more and more, and one day i asked him for a ride and he said yes! he took me where i needed to go and then stopped by his house and since no one was there... something happened.. we kissed and messed around and i was very happy but scared, since he is still with his gf and i dont really want to b the bad cop here, so anyways we kept talking and then he called me and we just wanted to talk, but.. we barely talked.. and something bigger happened.. sex..

 

And I just dont know what to feel or do, im trying not to be emotionally attached but iv loved this guy so much and i rejected a guy because i really cant have a stable relationship while loving my ex, so i needed to figure it out, my personal theory is that we both need to get back together to try it, because if we dont try it, wer never gonna get over each other and it will difficult moving on. I want him, He wants me, and he doesnt love his gf, he just wanted someone by his side and she made him smile and he has this feeling that he needs to help her with her problems, which she has a lot!) But i told him, hes not her father.., anywayss, I dont know what to do, Im in love with this guy, Iv waited 2 years for him. His family adores me and my baby, and omg he lovess my baby, he always tells me to send him pictures of my baby.

 

AHHH I just dont want to mess around, i want something serious, i mean iv waited long enough

[luv2bfit]

I personally think a guy who will cheat WITH you, will cheat ON you............ I've never been the other girl, but in my recent post I just made, my ex of 2 years cheated on me with his ex telling her he still loved her... Once I broke up with him (not even knowing about all this) he had full chance to be with her and he still cheated on her with a totally new girl..... So honestly, I never trust cheaters, ex or not.

[Mellie]

This is nonsense. If he loved you and wanted you, if he didn't love her and didn't want her, he wouldn't be with her. He'd be with you. End of story.

 

Do unto others... Imagine the first time you were with him. How would you have felt to discover he was cheating on you?

 

It always amazes me that any self respecting woman would settle for this crap. Call him on it. Tell him to leave her and be with you. I'm 99% sure what his answer would be.

 

If you want something serious, you're barking up the wrong tree. You need to work on getting over him, work on yourself, then maybe you'll be in a position where a serious relationship could happen.

[catfeeder]

Even if you win, you lose, because you'll spend the duration of your relationship looking over our own shoulder. Is that any way to live?

[DN]

Won't be a happy ending for the girlfriend.

[Mauxly]

Let me sum up this little Jerry Springer episode:

 

I had an emotional affair, dumped my boyfriend, got knocked up, decided I loved my ex more than baby-daddy so dumped him, cheated with ex on his new girl...can this have a happy ending?

 

Uhh...err...no. There isn't a chance in hell of a happy ending (or even an un-chaotic life) until you take a good long look at how your impulsive and selfish actions are the root of self destruction and harm to everyone involved, including your child.

 

There is hope for a happy ending some day, But not in the context of any of your current relationships. If you slow down, pay attention to the consequences of your actions, learn from your mistakes, stop acting out of self interest and impulsivity, you may one day learn how to be in a mature and healthy relationship. Until then, stay single and focus on your child.

[Ryguy786]

I would have to agree that this will not end well.

 

I'm sorry but, you're just as bad as him at this point.

 

Why do people think that cheating with someone isn't bad?

 

You really should just get over everything, and start a healthy relationship with honesty and compassion. You won't be happy like this.

It's nice to feel needed, we all know. That's why we are all here.

But we are also here to help others keep their own actions in check.

[abitbroken]

He would have to leave his girlfriend if this ever were to work. But you can't make him do that. Are you sure that you really love him and aren't just in love with what was before? I agree with the other posters...if he is cheating on his girlfriend, can you be sure he won't cheat on you?

 

I honestly think you need to leave him alone and be on your own and be comfortable being alone for awhile. Did you not love the child's father because you were too busy thinking about your ex? And now you cant have him?

 

Bottom line, think of the best interest of the child. Your baby doesn't need men in and out. It is better to be a confident mother than for a child to see you chase after a man who belongs to someone else.

[Eocsor]

Seriously, stay on your own for a while and devote yourself to your child. You've got huge issues obviously and are nowhere near stable enough to manage a relationship and rear a child at the same time. Grow up a little first, then think about a relationship.