Di84 Posted August 31, 2011 Share Posted August 31, 2011 Well I met this guy a couple weeks ago while out for dinner with a few friends. He was super into me and asked me for my number. At first, I wasn't really into givng out my number but then i thought "why not give this guy a chance". Afterall he was quite nice and charming. We went on a few dates and we actually ended up really getting along very well and enjoyed spending hours on end together. He told me he hadn't met anyone he liked so much (and vice-versa) in a long time that he was extremely picky and he really just couldn't find anything not to like about me. Fast forward a week and all of a sudden he does this to me... On sunday night i went over and brought him dinner. We watched a movie together and one thing led to another; we end up sleeping with each other. Now, I haven't been with anyone new since I broke up with my ex of 4yrs (just to give u a bit of my background for explanation later). While having sex with him i asked him to change position as i was uncomfortable and he got up and stopped out of nowhere and got mad at me saying that iw as putting too much pressure on him to perform (which i really wasnt) and that he was mad at me. (ok here i am on his bed completely shocked by what is going on). So I end up telling him that im sorry if he felt that way and maybe i need to crack out of my usual ways of having sex...... I was seriously confused by this and decided to just take accountability for whatever he was feeling i did wrong. He finally drops it and says sorry. NExt day he writes me an email and all is fine again. He asks me if id like to go over again and this time make him dinner. I agree to do so... and end up cooking him a great dinner and again we have a great night together, until we have sex later in the evening. Well this time, after telling me i was too forward the night before by telling him what to do, he acts forward with me. I bring it up to him during and say "woah..i thought u wanted to not be so forward and take things slowly". His response to that was "shut up" and as we were in the middle of this intimate moment..i just let it go. Now - this is when things get really weird. I ask him to simply change position as i was not comfortable and wanted to change it up. He quickly gets up off me, and tells me to leave his house he doesn't want to see me. ???????????? I thought he was kidding after i spent an evening having fun with him and cooked dinner for him, but he was serious. I got up and left completely confused (and pissed) about the whole situation and how he completely disrespected me for such an absurd reason. The following day (yesterday) we end up talking on the phone and i tell him that i dont understand what happened and why he got so mad at me...that i was simply not comfortable and couldnt understand why he took this all so personally. HE told me that i "was not spontaneous enough" and that he was "turned off" by me. He told me i am a great girl, funny, smart, attractive..but that he won't deal with this. Now call me crazy, but is this a valid and normal reason to end things with someone so quickly when things were doing so well? I felt completely disrespected and quite upset by the whole situation and feel really weird about this whole sex things. I've NEVER had someone do this to me before, ever. Did i do something wrong? Link to comment
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