It's been a week

[jazzy90]

my ex and i broke up like 2 weeks ago..today makes a week since we talked..however i am really missing him and im so depressed..last time we talked it didn't end well last thing i said to him "he won't find a girlfriend because he have a small penis" it was all out of anger because he didn't want to be friends with me after we broke up but yet i saw he was friends with his other ex girlfriend on Facebook. and he blocked me on Facebook. I want to message him but I don't know what to say because he said he didn't want anything else to do with me It's hard to let go. it's been a week but im so depressed because i miss talking to him..we talked every single day about everything

 

I will be having surgery in 2 weeks and before he was there whenever i needed him to like talk or whatever now he's out of my life..i dont know what to do? i think i made an terrible mistake..we argued constantly thats what ended our relationship..i apologized numerous times yet he didn't accept because out of anger i threaten to show his personal pictures even though i wasn't gonna do it..now he wont talk at all i dont know what to do..should i wait for awhile before messaging him?

[Cheetarah]

No, leave the guy alone. Threats are not ok ways of dealing with things. And I'm sure you're not exactly on his good side after the penis comment. It may have been out of anger, but it was still said and I'm sure it's in his head now.

 

He didn't owe it to you to be friends. His other friendships with exes are his personal choice and the dynamics are always different in each individual relationship/breakup.

 

He said he didn't want anything to do with you. I mean, the message doesn't get much clearer than that. I wouldn't even apologize. He's not receptive to you right now, and trying to nudge your way into his life is only going to make him resentful.. Just make peace with what you said on your own.

[ToF]

Honestly jazzy, and I'm not trying to be mean, but can you see why he wouldn't want anything to do with you?

 

After that stunt you pulled with the fake profile, I would not message him again. Ever. He knows how to find you if he feels the need to contact you.

 

This is for your sake. It keeps you from looking desperate.

[jazzy90]

He know's nothing abt the fake profile..i doubt he will contact me but i miss him and was wondering if i need to just wait for awhile a suddenly message him..i need some way to start back talking to him..i was thinking abt asking him why he have another girl message me even though i was the other girl..i really don't know but im depressed and losing myself..i really just want to talk to him

 

Honestly jazzy, and I'm not trying to be mean, but can you see why he wouldn't want anything to do with you?

 

After that stunt you pulled with the fake profile, I would not message him again. Ever. He knows how to find you if he feels the need to contact you.

 

This is for your sake. It keeps you from looking desperate.

[jazzy90]

also i played it off when i was pretending to the a fake because he said "the ex always send him angry messages" he was talking abt the real me..so while pretending to be the fake i asked him if the ex sent him angry messages and he replied "no, i'm surprised"

 

 

 

i really think he's been waiting for the real me to message him and ask "why was he having another girl message me" even though there's really NO other girl..because since then he's been signed in as "invisible" on yahoo!

[ToF]

i need some way to start back talking to him

 

No, what you need is a way to let go so you can move on.

 

i was thinking abt asking him why he have another girl message me even though i was the other girl

 

Don't you think this will come off as needy and argumentative? If you are going to message him at all, why on Earth would you say something like this?

 

Jazzy, I know it's hard. You guys broke up, and it hurts. But contacting him any more would be a BAD IDEA. Just bad.

[jazzy90]

yes but its been so difficult and depressing i can't seem to move on..plus to see he blocked me on facebook but he is friends with his other ex from 2007..they suddenly became facebook friends when him and i broke up..i dont know if he was trying to make me mad or what?

 

No, what you need is a way to let go so you can move on.

 

 

 

Don't you think this will come off as needy and argumentative? If you are going to message him at all, why on Earth would you say something like this?

 

Jazzy, I know it's hard. You guys broke up, and it hurts. But contacting him any more would be a BAD IDEA. Just bad.

[jazzy90]

Oh and i wasn't gonna tell him i WAS the other girl..i was just gonna play it off and ask "why are you having other's message me"? and just to see what he say..but i doubt he will probably even reply..

[ToF]

plus to see he blocked me on facebook but he is friends with his other ex from 2007..they suddenly became facebook friends when him and i broke up..i dont know if he was trying to make me mad or what?

 

The fact is ... Adding his ex had nothing to do with YOU. He wanted to be friends with her, but did not want any contact with you. That's that. If I were you, I would take that as a hint to leave him ALONE.