Mutual Places...

[purrbaby]

So after a break up, what do you do about mutual places/events that you know your ex might be at?

 

The reason I ask, is there are several events (outdoor festivals, concerts, Halloween stuff) coming up at places that my ex and I would have gone to together. There's a pretty big chance he'll probably still be going to these things (with his sister, who hates me and would make a scene). My city is big, but not big enough that I won't run into him at some point.

 

So do I just skip these events all together. Or do I go and not let him ruin my possibility of a good time?

[mhowe]

You are projecting Halloween right now, which is at least 12 weeks away. Significant healing can occur by then if you are serious about letting go and moving on. I would not change my life to accommodate someone who isn't in it anymore. Chances are, you won't see him anyway.

[NCforME]

I don't know... I ran in to my ex and her new boy shortly after of course. A city of 600,000 people and I walk right past them on the street. It sucks but there really is nothing you can do about it. You can't live you life running.

[purrbaby]

True I am looking at things a little further out and I probably should just take it day by day. But it's just hard to say how'd I feel if I saw him again. Whether it be now, in 2 weeks, or 2 months.

[Mayumi]

I had tickets to go somewhere where my ex was going. I kind of wanted to see him as well as the band so I still went. When I got there he completely ignored me despite our breakup being "friendly". I walked right up to him, put my hand up to say hi and he turned around and walked away. A lot of people I knew could see, it was humiliating. So I guess it depends if you think he would behave in a respectable fashion or if he (or his sister) would behave childishly.

[lemsip]

If you're still healing, and know he'll be there, I think it's worth staying away.