Really Really confused..

[chrismids]

Basically there was this girl i used to work with, and even tho not seeing her that much (from another department) it was always really nice when i saw her, and she would often ask me for help over others.

 

I found her on facebok once, so messaged her a couple of weeks back, and she messaged back straight away and we had a little convo. It turns out she always enjoyed coming in and seeing me, and would always look to me for help. Nothin much you might think, but then we started texting lots, and when my mum was in hospital (she still is) it was really nice to have her to talk too. We got to know each other (she has a kid and is married but seperated), and this sunday agreed to meet up in town. Getting on really well, we ended up kissing, and went back to hers with her mates. This other guy was hanging around too, and was always by her side (her mate said it was nothing to worry about) but they ended up laying on the sofa together and i decided i was probably stepping on toes, and went home.

 

The next morning i text her asking if she had a good night, and got a reply saying she did and was i ok etc. Ive not heard from her since (ok since yesterday morning) and ive tried texting her a few times, and messaged her on facebook but not heard anything. I did text her saying i really liked her, and how great she looked sunday night, and thanking her for being amazing while my mum is ill. And not heard i thing, ive asked if ive said or done anything out of line, or if ive got the wrong end of the stick, but heard nothing what with my mum being ill too, im really confused about whats going on. I know its only been a day since hearing from her, but after fancyin her since i first saw her at work, i really dont know what to do, feeling a bit low etc as im thinking ill probably not hear from her again?

 

Any Help or advice?

[Bunney]

I think you should step back and not write to her so much within such a short period of time. Chances are that she feels you are being clingy/desperate and hence backed off. Just don't write more and see what happens

[chrismids]

Turns out its her wedding anniversary this sunday, so things are gonna be hard for her. She isnt looking for a relationship at the moment, but wants to stay friends. I guess its gonna take her time to get over her husband cheating on her. Feel a little bit better, but guess im slightly gutted she doesnt want anything at the moment!

[mhowe]

You are way too invested in this --- this is a friendship, maybe on the way to a relationship....but how can you be gutted that she is trying to work her way through the end of her marriage?

[HeartGoesOn]

Turns out its her wedding anniversary this sunday, so things are gonna be hard for her. She isnt looking for a relationship at the moment, but wants to stay friends. I guess its gonna take her time to get over her husband cheating on her. Feel a little bit better, but guess im slightly gutted she doesnt want anything at the moment!

 

She's not anywhere close to relationship material, until her marriage is over, and divorce papers are signed.

[catfeeder]

Don't set yourself up badly. The end of a marriage makes people nuts, so it's not the time to mess with her. Let her go finish her old business, and if she'd like to get together a few months after her divorce is finalized, then if you're still available you can catch up. Otherwise, it's not a meant to be deal.