UserConfig Posted August 30, 2011 Share Posted August 30, 2011 I'll try to make the story short. I met this girl, let's call her Ann, and I've known her for a little over a month now. We went on two dates that went wonderfully! I was all psyched for the third date when she tells me that she doesn't want to lead me on right now because she might still have feelings for her ex. So okay fine, and I decide to give her some space. We aren't texting as frequently but we still talk. We hang out with a mutual group of friends and there's this other guy, let's call him Ben. They also met around the same time Ann and I met. I always kind of knew they were talking a lot as well but I didn't think too much of it. At a few of our mutual group hang outs, I notice that they are pretty close with each other physically. Just small things like Ann leaning against Ben, Ann's hand slightly on his leg, hanging together most of the time, etc. Now I'm wondering if anything is happening between them. This is my issue. If she told me she has feelings for her ex and doesn't want to lead me on, then what is going on here? Let's say that Ben also likes Ann, but Ann gave him the same message. BUT, if Ann did give him the same message, she wouldn't be doing all these small things to lead him on. Assuming this is the case, then clearly she lied to me, right? She might be actually interested in Ben but didn't want to tell me? So I'm seeing her again soon in a 1-on-1 situation and I want to just ask her straight up. I'm not sure how to approach this with her. What I want to say is, do I still even have a chance with you, is your ex excuse actually legit, and if it is, is there something going on between you and Ben? Any advise on the situation in general? Helping me word what I want to say would be nice too! Link to comment
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