qwerty123456 Posted August 29, 2011 Share Posted August 29, 2011 More than a year ago I met this girl online which I had a very fun time talking to and I finally decided to meet her in real life in july 2010. During those moments I really started to fall in love with her because she proved to have really good values. She has an awesome personality and is extremely attractive. I am not looking for the perfect person, because perfection doesn't exist and nobody is perfect, including me. So of course we had some differences but those were minor stuff, which really doesn't matter. She told me that she couldn't have sex before being with that person for 3 years. I agreed to this because I had no sexual desires. The problem started shortly after, when we started dating in october, I am the kind of guy who is sexually attracted based on somebody's personality and not really their physical appearance. Hot girls never turned me on. So in other words, I am very rarely attracted to somebody, I am looking for specific things in a girl and the girl I met has everything, awesome personality, good looking and awesome values. To me, she is very attractive. So the problem started, she enjoyed teasing me, saying stuff like "do you want sex with me?", "touch me..." and all you can think of to turn a guy on. So... I baited, it turned me on and of course I wanted sex but with the way she and the rest of her family handle sex, she wouldn't want to do it with me. So I had to relieve my frustraion by masturbating. It kept going for a while, I made sure to let her know... It didn't change, I told her again... I let her know... and nothing. Eventually she understood and stopped. I never knew I would be that way considering I never had any sex drive before, until I met this girl which I really love. When we meet in real life, which is once every 3 months, we mess around for a bit, then eventually she stops doing anything. Which leaves me with sexual frustration again and having to masturbate. The thing is, even if she stopped teasing me, I am unable to return back to normal... Sometimes I turn myself on by thinking about her without her doing anything. To relieve this frustration temporary, I masturbate. Masturbating only does so much though... Masturbating just isn't enough to relieve that frustration anymore, I need something new... She isn't very sexually active too, so we rarely mess around. She gave me a blow job once, which relieved the frustration completely for a couple days then she refused to do anything else. I don't know what to do anymore, I want sex with her but she doesn't and I respect that but I have to deal with this problem and I don't know how to fix it. It is making me so sad because the only way I may be able to relieve my frustration is by leaving her. I don't want to do that because she is so special to me and I am dating her because I am hoping to have a future with her, I am trying so hard to just keep it inside me and waiting until she is ready... I want it to be very fun for both of us, not just me. I am afraid that one day it will just be too much. I love her so much and I am looking for a way to fix my issue and I don't know how. I would like some advices... Thanks. Link to comment
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