sarahgracec Posted August 28, 2011 Share Posted August 28, 2011 I know this is practically a novel, but please read and help me? First of all, my boyfriend and I started dating when he was 15 and I was 17. We are now 17 and 18. He couldn't drive when we started dating, so I always did, even picking him up for school. He lives 3 minutes from our town, and about 10 minutes from me. I live 7 minutes from town. We live in a very rural area. My boyfriend invited me to a concert about 2 hours away which was scheduled for yesterday. I agreed to go, even coming home early from my first week of college to be able to go with him (an hour and a half drive). I expected him to come pick me up because he rarely does (I usually meet him in town) and because we would be getting home pretty late. Around 1:30 pm (we were scheduled to leave at 3) he tells me he needs me to meet him at his house. I was quite upset, because I knew I would get my mom fussing because I always used to drive him around and he never picks me up, and because I hate driving home from his house that late alone (he would have his 23 year old brother with us when he took me home). Also, he and his brother were planning to pick up his brother's friends in a neighboring town on the way, which is about 20 minutes out of the way. I felt really upset, like a tag-along, so I argued that if he wanted me to go, he should really pick me up, just because of the reasons listed above. We argued for about an hour and a half. Finally he "argued with his mom" enough for him to be able to come and get me, but I explained that after arguing with him for so long, and then arguing with my mom (she was telling me how rude he was and whatnot) and being tired from college I just didn't want to go. He accused me of stabbing him in the back (because he fought so hard with his mom for him to be able to drive the 10 minutes to come get me) and not caring about him because I didn't want to go. He's been mad at me ever since. Now, he refuses to see me this weekend, even though it's pretty much our only chance to hang out until next weekend. He says I "should have thought of that" yesterday when I didn't want to go to the concert. I have apologized for getting upset, but I don't really feel like I'm in the wrong here. I know it's petty, but after him picking me up being a conflict ever since he got his license (he says his mom won't let him, it's too much gas, etc) I just feel really slighted, like I'm not important. I didn't want to go to the concert for that very reason, I felt like he didn't really want me there. I feel like it's unfair that he can't come get me because when I'm home (if I don't have class, and during the summer when his school started but mine hadn't) I would get up at 6:30 am to meet him in town for breakfast before he went to school. He claims he worries about my safety (gets upset when I go out at 9 or 10 at college with a group of girls) but is okay with me driving home alone at 2 am. I just don't really know what to do or how to think of this situation. Please help? Also, when we go out we almost always split the costs, he rarely pays for everything. In fact he hasn't in a very long time. Link to comment
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