Distantrunner Posted August 24, 2011 Share Posted August 24, 2011 I dated this guy many years ago (almost 18 to be exact). I was head over heels in love with him. The attraction was electrifying. This may sound weird, but I use to 'feel' him before he would call me. Often times, he would disapear for weeks, if not months, and then reappear and find me. Our friends would tease us because they could see our attraction for themselves. Anyway, one day he asks me if I am in love with him, but before I could answer he told me that he was not in love with me and we were just having fun. I was heartbroken, and decided that I would move on and not waste anymore time with him. I eventually met a man that I would marry. A few weeks after our engagement, This guy, calls up out of the blue and says he is sorry and cant stop thinking of me, could we start over, maybe go to a movie, take it slow, ect. I couldnt wait to tell him I was engaged! Yet, as I was saying it, I wanted so bad for him to try and talk me out of gettng married. I said we could still be friends, he said we couldnt, it would never work with our feelings like they were. I can't say that I never thought about him all these years later. I dream of him often and sometimes get mad at myself for still caring for him. Facebook comes along. I find out that he is married with children (I too, am married with children) One day, out of the blue, he Friend Requests me. I freaked out! I accepted it, and sent him a quick note. He wrote back and told me about his family, ect and said he would talk with me soon. He hasnt. And that's okay. But I cant help but wonder why would he contact me? Are men really that oblivious and forgetful of earlier 'endings'? Or is it possible he has feelings still? Strangely, I am thrilled that he is within cyber reach. It also flatters me a bit that he even remembered my name. Now, and I dont know if this is a co-incidence, but I sometimes can 'feel' him like he is thinking of me. (had those feelings over the years, not all the time, but very familiar) Help? PS ~ Yes, I am still married and would never hurt my husband, but to tell me to just forget him is nearly impossible to do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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