lemsip Posted August 24, 2011 Share Posted August 24, 2011 Hi guys, I try to gain as much info as I can from other threads etc... try not to make many new ones myself. But was just hoping for some quick thoughts and encouragement today as I feel kinda cr*p. It's been 2 months since my BU of 8 years with my fiancee. She immediately started seeing someone new and we're in the process of selling our house. My head has been up my ass but I guess I am getting better, very slowly mind you. I know people talk about the process not being linear, but has anyone experience of going from complete acceptance back to complete denial on a regular basis? Just when I think I'm moving on I get an email from her about the house or something and I say to myself "this can't be happening, this can't be happening" and I have the sudden urge to start bargaining with her again. It's ridiculous. I want to email her right now and ask her to reconsider our relationship, even though I know there's too much hurt on my end now. It would never be the same again anyway. Plus, I seem to forget she basically screwed me over with this new guy! Nearly all her emails etc end with the line "hope you're doing OK". How does she think I'm doing?! I'm trying to remain as emotionless and civil as I can be. As much as I want to tear into her I won't. What is going on in my head?! Is it contact (of any description) that is causing this? Will my healing not properly begin until we sell the house? What if it doesn't sell? I can't keep going back and forward back and forward in a neverending cycle of acceptance and denial. Thanks everyone for their support so far through all this... Link to comment
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