someguy23711 Posted August 24, 2011 Share Posted August 24, 2011 I've been dating my girlfriend for 5 months. We talked about past relationships about a month in. I knew the man in question as her ex-boyfriend, who was "old enough to be her father." She also told me they were still good friends. I didn't have a problem with this. Today, she mentioned an email from him this morning, that he was on vacation with his wife and she was glad he was happy with her again. I said I had assumed he was divorced and asked if they were just separated when they were together (over a year). She said no, they had "an affair type thing." I was a bit shocked and asked what that was like. She just said she didn't regret it, but knew it wouldn't have worked out. She then said she didn't want to talk about it. Well, I'm a little concerned, obviously. She has said she believes in monogamy, and I guess she wasn't doing the cheating, but still. Her lack of regret also worries me...what if their marriage was ruined? Also, why does she still talk to him? Isn't that incredibly disrespectful to his wife, even if they have broken up? Finally, shouldn't she have told me this before? She didn't really tell me now, just casually brought up the guy's wife in conversation. Looking for opinions/advice. What should I say, if anything? Is her previous affair any of my business? Thanks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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